You really want to yank social chains: try being a custodial grand parent. When ever I took my 2 GK's for appointments, the staff would go into a stammering fit when trying to wrap their heads around our family dynamics. Not wanting to make assumptions, they usually opted to take the "Mom"...
I'm not a stay at home Mom! I'm an old grammy, but... so very glad to see this thread starting. You gals need all the support you can get! Parenting is hard, expecially when the kids are so young.