Bonding With A Conure???

So, my mother got a Green Cheek conure, hand fed, as a baby. She hand fed him and spent ALL her time with me, but the bird only wants to be with my dad, or me! She's really unhappy, now, because she has lost all her pets due to ailments. Please help her bond with him!!!

ANYONE???

Umm ok, lets see if this works, have your mom with no humans around, then while she eats, whole wheat, eggs, rice, even popcorn (no salt or butter) have your family feather buddy sit near her on the table, with an extra plate of food, same as your mom.
remember this very important, we think as human time, you have to understand parrot time can be longer, they don't understand human time.
,she can try baby food with a spoon make it just like she did, keep the temp the same as she was handfeeding him.
what happens when your family buddy sits on your mother shoulder? I mean don't pet him, just talk to him just a little bit and while she does stuff around the house, just let him get used to hanging around on moms shoulder.
another thing that might help when your mom is in her bedroom, have the baby, with her and get a box of toys, put the box close to your mom, (baby toys are safe and you can get them at a thrift store, just clean them very good) let the baby play by his self, he might want to show mommy his toys then she can play but not to much, then at this time, play peck a boo using a cover to cover mom eyes, it might take time but they love it.
show me your wings game, just have the baby in your finger, and say show me your wings, while moving your hand up and down, then praise him everytime he lifts his wings.one day he do this with just saying show me your wings
good luck I really hope this work
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ladybirdb12 said:

Umm ok, lets see if this works, have your mom with no humans around, then while she eats, whole wheat, eggs, rice, even popcorn (no salt or butter) have your family feather buddy sit near her on the table, with an extra plate of food, same as your mom.
remember this very important, we think as human time, you have to understand parrot time can be longer, they don't understand human time.
,she can try baby food with a spoon make it just like she did, keep the temp the same as she was handfeeding him.
what happens when your family buddy sits on your mother shoulder? I mean don't pet him, just talk to him just a little bit and while she does stuff around the house, just let him get used to hanging around on moms shoulder.
another thing that might help when your mom is in her bedroom, have the baby, with her and get a box of toys, put the box close to your mom, (baby toys are safe and you can get them at a thrift store, just clean them very good) let the baby play by his self, he might want to show mommy his toys then she can play but not to much, then at this time, play peck a boo using a cover to cover mom eyes, it might take time but they love it.
show me your wings game, just have the baby in your finger, and say show me your wings, while moving your hand up and down, then praise him everytime he lifts his wings.one day he do this with just saying show me your wings
good luck I really hope this work
Ask if you need more help,

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Thank you! She spent a good part of the day with him on her shoulder, just talking to him, but he likes to fly away, and get on top of the cabinets and bookshelves. Any cure for that besides clipping his wings?

I know a lot of people don't agree about clipping wings, but I do, one of my teil got killed because his wings was not clipped. Remember, they can fly into the toilet and drown, or fly into the kitchen and land into food that is cooking!!! They can fly into a window and slam hard which means broken keel bone that's the bone in the chest, that can kill them.
SO PLEASE CLIP THE WINGS, THEY MIGHT POUT FOR ABOUT FIVE MINUTES, THEN THEY WILL CHECK WHAT KIND OF LIFT OFF THEY HAVE.
Have your breeder show you how to clip its easy, lol towell works really good, they cant see what's doing on and its less stress for the bird ..
my teils are easy lol, I say snip snip time lol tgen they see those darn scissor, but they let me cut them, I need no towell, but my grey OH YEA, TOWELL TINE HE SCREAMS LIKE A BABY AND BITES THE TOWELL HOPING TO GET MY HUSBAND, LOL MY GREY LOVES ME, BUT LOVES TO CHEW ON DADDY, ITS SO FUNNY

ladybirdb12 said:

I know a lot of people don't agree about clipping wings, but I do, one of my teil got killed because his wings was not clipped. Remember, they can fly into the toilet and drown, or fly into the kitchen and land into food that is cooking!!! They can fly into a window and slam hard which means broken keel bone that's the bone in the chest, that can kill them.
SO PLEASE CLIP THE WINGS, THEY MIGHT POUT FOR ABOUT FIVE MINUTES, THEN THEY WILL CHECK WHAT KIND OF LIFT OFF THEY HAVE.
Have your breeder show you how to clip its easy, lol towell works really good, they cant see what's doing on and its less stress for the bird ..
my teils are easy lol, I say snip snip time lol tgen they see those darn scissor, but they let me cut them, I need no towell, but my grey OH YEA, TOWELL TINE HE SCREAMS LIKE A BABY AND BITES THE TOWELL HOPING TO GET MY HUSBAND, LOL MY GREY LOVES ME, BUT LOVES TO CHEW ON DADDY, ITS SO FUNNY

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I'll tell her that. He likes to fly around the house, and he definitely is curious about cooking food. He isn't able to reach the back of the house; we've blocked it from him.

Many birds are one person birds. My cockatiel, for example, only like me. She doesn't even like other birds!
There are ways, though, to change that, and you might want to do some internet research (searching on google), but here are the basics:

The your GCC should spend time alone with your mom. Try letting her feed him from her hand and practicing stepping up. I agree with ladybirdb12 to clip his wings if he's too flighty for her to handle or keeps flying to you like my bird does. If he considers someone in particular to be his mate, if that person leaves, your GCC will stop trying to "protect" that person from the "intruder" (your mom) and be a bit more accepting. As with all issues, your bird needs to trust your mom, which might take a while.

Unfortunately, there may be times where your bird just doesn't accept someone. It may be hard, but she could get another bird and wait until they're completely bonded before letting others play with him/her too much.

Your mom must be quite sad. I've never had this happen to me because my birds almost only taken care of by me. I can, however, imagine how it must feel

Thanks for the information.

After clipping his wings, he's so much more friendly with her. He'll bathe in her hands, play with her, sleep on her, and jump from the cage to be with her! She's so indescribably happy!

My jenday has/had a vendetta against my long term boyfriend. She'll go nuts screaming when he so much as moves (this is fun in the mornings when he moves to roll over...). A few months back she flew from her cage onto his shoulder, I was excited because she went to him and all on her own! Awesome progress! Only....not really. The same second she was pretending to preen his hair, she flipped and decided his ear lobes & cartilage needed pierced. He knows the rules of birds enough that he didn't swat her away. So I had to grab her before she did permanent damage, ended up with an acrylic nail crushed, and a very very angrily confused little jenday clamped on my finger. After that I was told by my parrotlet's breeder to clip her wings (that was hard, she LOVES flying laps around the room) and that I was no longer allowed to feed her, water her, fill her bath, or give treats. He was to do all that. Theory is that if she sees him as a provider of things she needs, she won't be as bent to maim him. She's now almost fully flighted & allows head scratching while on her favorite spot (jewelry box...or what's left of it..). Haven't seen her attempt anything more since. The wing clip & food provider change has made her rely on him as well as me to live like the spoiled princess she is. After weaning birds can be grumpy towards their former "mama". That's attributed to the fact that once the babies are weaned, the mother no longer tends to them. Could be why he turned off to her completely. He could also have forgotten that he at one time associated her with a mama bird figure. Looks like his green cheek personality has finally kicked in & he's a little lover to your ma now, though!

Birds have a instinct to cut ties with their immediate family and then seek a mate when they get to maturity. He thinks your mother is his mother, and nature made it to where he looses the bond with his mother so he does not mate with her and interbreed... It may never change... If it does, post on here what worked because that may help the rest of us bird raisers that have the same issue. K