The Evolution of Atlas: A Breeding (and Chat) Thread

I've tolerated this chemo well, so far. Of course, it's just the first round of many.

A couple months ago, Dh's brother said he, and his wife were coming to FL. They come down here every year, and every year Dh invites them to come over, or let us meet up with them somewhere, so we could visit. They've always made excuses. I never understood it, since we all got along very well when we would go up to visit Dh's mother, and they would come over there to see us.

Well lo and behold, this year they accepted (sort of). They decided they would come to an Oak Ridge Boys concert at the county fairgrounds. We live close to one of the entrances. At first, everyone was going to meet there, take in the concert, then go their separate ways. Dh suggested they come here to our house, go in one car, saving on parking money, then they could leave from here after the concert. It took a bit to convince his sister-in-law, but she finally agreed. Dh's brother got here about an hour before they left for the concert, so we had a chance to visit for just a little while, then they took off to the concert.

Before all of this, I spent several days deep cleaning this house almost spotless. I did it for 2 reasons. 1. I was pretty sure that I would not feel up to doing anything for a few days after the chemo, so I could rest easy knowing I would be able to catch up with the housework after those few days of not being able to do anything. 2. I knew that if I didn't clean, his family would change their minds, and decide to come over. (Isn't that always the way?)

I stayed home from the concert, because I had to watch after the grands. I didn't mind staying home, since I saw the Oak Ridge Boys in concert last year, AND it gave me a chance to rest up some. I'm glad I got to sneak in a little nap.

By the time they returned from the concert, our sister-in-law decided that we have a nice place, and it was clean enough to suit her, so there was no objection to them staying for awhile to visit. Especially when they found out Dh's son (my stepson) would stop by after he got off work. All went well.

They'll be coming back down in June, and they have already been making plans to come here, and spend time with us.
 
As to Dh's son, he was very nice to me. He usually is, but it's what he says behind my back that's been the problem. He's got problems with depression. When he goes off his meds, he self-medicates with drinking, drugs, etc. He spends all his money going out and partying, so then he wants Dh to help him out financially.

For the longest time, the only time we ever heard from him was when he needed money. He wouldn't answer his dad's phone calls, wouldn't talk to him on social media, wouldn't call on his own, wouldn't come by when invited to spend time, or even accept a dinner invitation. At first the excuse was that I would try to give him unsolicited advice, and he didn't need me to counsel him, so he didn't want to see us.

I began putting my foot down about us being his ATM. He got mad that I was limiting/stopping his dad from giving him so much money, so he countered by smearing me to everyone. This caused a lot of friction between me, and Dh, but even more friction between me, and Dh's mother. It caused friction between Dh, and his mother too. Dh has a weak spine when it comes to his mother, so I became the fall guy. Dh's mother let it be known that I was a horrible person, and mean to her grandson. Maybe this is why Dh's brother, and sister-in-law didn't want to come by. I don't know.
 
Cheryl, family drama is something I don't miss. No one calls or comes to visit other than my two sons if they can get away, which is rarely. In a way, my husband prefers it that way-he had enough family drama growing up and bad experiences being shunned by family that he's over it. I hope you don't let them distress you too much with what you have going on. Now, don't make me worry about you even more than I already do! Take care of yourself first.
 
The horse paste works just fine. For a long time, that's all that was available. Both my daughter and I have used it. Be sure to read how many lbs. per notch, because it can vary quite a bit between brands, and adjust it to your weight. We did the one dose based on our weight. That knocked it right out, almost immediately. I have other friends that have done the same, and they reported the same results. PS. In our experience, the apple flavored tasted worse than the non-flavored.

For the record, almost all medications are tested on animals first, so the veterinarians get first crack at the human meds. In many instances it's the same manufacturer for both human, and animal meds. The manufacturers just crank it out, and the only distinction is whether, at the end of the line, they put it in packaging for humans, or for animals. The problem that arose with purity, was due to branding. Because animal meds are not strictly regulated, several brands were obtaining the pure product, then adding some extra fillers, increase their profit margins, and rebrand it. Most of the top name brands have not done this.
Wonder how well it would help the common cold.
 
As to Dh's son, he was very nice to me. He usually is, but it's what he says behind my back that's been the problem. He's got problems with depression. When he goes off his meds, he self-medicates with drinking, drugs, etc. He spends all his money going out and partying, so then he wants Dh to help him out financially.

For the longest time, the only time we ever heard from him was when he needed money. He wouldn't answer his dad's phone calls, wouldn't talk to him on social media, wouldn't call on his own, wouldn't come by when invited to spend time, or even accept a dinner invitation. At first the excuse was that I would try to give him unsolicited advice, and he didn't need me to counsel him, so he didn't want to see us.

I began putting my foot down about us being his ATM. He got mad that I was limiting/stopping his dad from giving him so much money, so he countered by smearing me to everyone. This caused a lot of friction between me, and Dh, but even more friction between me, and Dh's mother. It caused friction between Dh, and his mother too. Dh has a weak spine when it comes to his mother, so I became the fall guy. Dh's mother let it be known that I was a horrible person, and mean to her grandson. Maybe this is why Dh's brother, and sister-in-law didn't want to come by. I don't know.
How sad. I hope your chemo goes well and doesn’t get you down. Prayers if you would like.
 
I've weathered the "family drama" before, and as I said, it all went well, so no concerns for now. Gotta keep life interesting, right?
That's one way to put it! Life for all of us has been quite "interesting" in the past few years, hasn't it? Good attitude is something to hang onto!
 

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