This is not common here on BYC. I have always found most everyone is very helpful and encouraging so I wouldn't let this keep you away. Stick around awhile, you'll see how much fun and uplifting the people are and you'll make lots of new friends too!
I wish you the very best, Tracy! Get some rest, they'll come when the time is right.. I have found they may come a day or so late at 99.5 F. I just hatched 19 on Monday and Tues that were due Sunday. (I set them on a Sunday). #19 came just yesterday! (Thursday) He was a surprise! LOL...
MA Mama: I thought her post was quite harsh and accusatory, also. There are ways of getting your point across (if you must) without sounding like you're talking down to someone.