Giving up a child?

I'm so happy for you, oesdog! My uncle was severely disabled with schizophrenia and the toll it took on the family was a great one. It seemed no one wanted to help when we needed it most, so I can understand the feelings of hopelessness.

I hope that this placement is everything that you want it to be for your son. After so many false starts and false hopes you deserve some peace of mind.

Reading this thread helps to give perspective on my own troubles, which now seem very small indeed.

All the best to you and your husband.

We are still waiting as the process seems to take forever. This last weekend Dan was pretty hard work again what with biting and nipping. He took the skin clean off his carers arms in day care. The poor fellow has had a coat on with the sleves pulled down all week! I feel so bad when Dan does this to other folk. He tried to attack our little granddaughter and my daughter. Everyone is lossing patience. I dread the two week break from Day care he will get over the Summer? I wish he was in his own home and we were just visiting! Took the other twin out for a meal today andhe was great. Not so difficult. It works better when they are in their own place with their own care givers and we are not exhausted and exasperated!

Oes

Well the news is that - in a few days time social services have finally arranged to pick Dans bed up and move him officially to the Supported living unit.

I can;t believe after so many many months and all the years of struggling we are now into our final week of being full time care giviers for our son at home.

I don;t know if I should feel elated at the idea that we finally have the freedom we need as a couple to regain our health or cry because in many ways we have failed to keep the lad at home - but then he is 27 yrs old so weve been doing all the care for near 30yrs. The day I gave him birth and all the months in hospital up and down to the prem unit and then the final day he came home with his twin brother - well that is so clear in our minds like it was yesterday not near on 30 yrs ago.

I will miss the boy here bigtime. ...........

I will post and let you know how things have gone. This is why I have not posted much recently - I must say a big thanks to Rancher Hicks and family for all their care and prayers for us and the lovely letter he sent.

It is hard on any parents when the final child flies the nest but when that child is forever a baby - and needs so much care and love. Well it is a big change indeed and much to adjust to.

Oes.

Prayers for your and your family. May he flourish in his new home. May you have the time to take care of your "couple health" that you so desperately need after such a lengthy "full nest".