here's my story
My brother is getting married Friday Nov 11, @ 1:00 to a wonderful girl.. This is both their second marriage. Very small affair. BUT I am not taking my 2 boys and leaving them in school.
A little background - my boys are both in a private christian school - My oldest a 3rd grader has several test on Fridays and on top of that Fridays are the time to complete any unfinished week worth of work that needs to be done.. He always needs this time.. I am afraid if i take him out that it is only going to make him farther behind the following week.. You may ask are they out when they are sick.. They are allowed to stay out if they are truly sick, I try to send them when it is just a sore throat so they know they have to continue on. IF they are out - I get the daily work and we get it done the day they are out of school and it is usually a good dozen pages to do or read. My other son is in preschool at the same school - so if I am not taking one, I can't take the other. My Family is a loving family but I may go sometimes 2 weeks without speaking to my mother/father on the phone.. I speak to my brother occassionally. We leave about 15 minutes apart so it is not really a distance thing.. We just don't have to speak or see each other daily - They know I love them and they love me.. We do get together on some Sundays to have dinner and always have Christmas and Thanksgiving dinner together.
My boys have never asked about where my brothers first wife went.. They saw her only around christmas and occasionally on weekends and it would be very spread out between visits.. The boys do mention his new wife-to-be a little more because her son also goes to the same school.. The boys don't get out until 3:00 so the wedding will be over with by that time...
My mother thinks the boys should be there - but I also consider her "up my brothers hind end too" if I should put it like that - My brother was the trouble maker always getting into trouble (meaning served a few days in jail type of trouble) Since he has been "clean" she has followed his daily activities. He is the one that had been thru divorce (She would spend every weekend at his house even though he was surrounded by GREAT friends) and now getting remarried - His wife to be is letting her plan pretty much everything.. So that is just icing on the cake..
I am looking at it like I am doing what is best for my boys.. the wedding doesn't means anything to them but it means everything to my mother....
My brother is getting married Friday Nov 11, @ 1:00 to a wonderful girl.. This is both their second marriage. Very small affair. BUT I am not taking my 2 boys and leaving them in school.
A little background - my boys are both in a private christian school - My oldest a 3rd grader has several test on Fridays and on top of that Fridays are the time to complete any unfinished week worth of work that needs to be done.. He always needs this time.. I am afraid if i take him out that it is only going to make him farther behind the following week.. You may ask are they out when they are sick.. They are allowed to stay out if they are truly sick, I try to send them when it is just a sore throat so they know they have to continue on. IF they are out - I get the daily work and we get it done the day they are out of school and it is usually a good dozen pages to do or read. My other son is in preschool at the same school - so if I am not taking one, I can't take the other. My Family is a loving family but I may go sometimes 2 weeks without speaking to my mother/father on the phone.. I speak to my brother occassionally. We leave about 15 minutes apart so it is not really a distance thing.. We just don't have to speak or see each other daily - They know I love them and they love me.. We do get together on some Sundays to have dinner and always have Christmas and Thanksgiving dinner together.
My boys have never asked about where my brothers first wife went.. They saw her only around christmas and occasionally on weekends and it would be very spread out between visits.. The boys do mention his new wife-to-be a little more because her son also goes to the same school.. The boys don't get out until 3:00 so the wedding will be over with by that time...
My mother thinks the boys should be there - but I also consider her "up my brothers hind end too" if I should put it like that - My brother was the trouble maker always getting into trouble (meaning served a few days in jail type of trouble) Since he has been "clean" she has followed his daily activities. He is the one that had been thru divorce (She would spend every weekend at his house even though he was surrounded by GREAT friends) and now getting remarried - His wife to be is letting her plan pretty much everything.. So that is just icing on the cake..
I am looking at it like I am doing what is best for my boys.. the wedding doesn't means anything to them but it means everything to my mother....