Can you tell by looking at her if she has lost weight? Sounds like he stayed behind to keep guard.I have put a tray of food out and water, she hasn't taken from either of them. But, she does go down to the pond about once a day and bathes and drinks and then comes back up to nest. I tried to sneak in last night and grab an egg when she went down to water, but the gander came flying at me out of nowhere. ~sheesh~