OK - sorry BYCers, but I just gotta get this out or my head is going to explode!
My ex-H and I divorced, was final in late 2008 - but we've been separated for approx 2 years now. I have 2 sons (ages 10 & 7) - the 10 year old is not biologically my ex's and ex was raising 10 year old as his own until the divorce started. When my 10 year old found out he wasn't ex's bio. child - he wanted to know who his real dad was. Real dad has made some bad decisions, and is now a guest of the State of TX - but his parents are good people, so we got in contact - have been letter writing and phoning for approx a year and we're leaving Saturday to go visit.
I'm taking my 7 year old DS because this is a family vacation - its the only one I get this year, and honestly between kids and animals and work - its hard to get away. Besides the biol. grandparents have been great, and have worked to include my 7 year old.
So my ex sends me a text today saying that 7 year old doesn't want to go, it would be best if he stayed. I blinked a couple times, started typing a nasty text back - but before I could send it I got another one telling me that my 7 year old doesn't even know these people - so what's the point. I decided against the nasty text and sent back that its our vacation - and none of his business.
He then sends me another message about how I can screw (I'm trading out words to make it more family friendly) up my own kid with those losers - but don't bring 7 year old into it. Now I'm getting upset and I send him a message telling him to stop texting me.
So what does he do? He sends me another message - saying he's looking out for DS's best interests, and there's no reason for DS to know these people. I had had enough and called and left him a voicemail telling him that it was MY vacation, MY time with the kids, HE chose to walk out, HE doesn't get a say anymore - and if he keeps bugging me, I'm going to pursue harrassment charges (I work for lawyers, very handy). And then I shut my phone off for the rest of the day.
Aargh!! I thought when the divorce was final, this would stop. Oldest DS's grandparents are very nice - and I think its important for youngest DS to know them - after all we're all family.
Now I know why youngest DS has been complaining about going... Think someone has been putting bugs in his ears about what a horrible time we'll have.
Thanks for listening. I do have to say I was proud of myself for never sending nasty texts or voice mails - I think the counseling has finally paid off!!
My ex-H and I divorced, was final in late 2008 - but we've been separated for approx 2 years now. I have 2 sons (ages 10 & 7) - the 10 year old is not biologically my ex's and ex was raising 10 year old as his own until the divorce started. When my 10 year old found out he wasn't ex's bio. child - he wanted to know who his real dad was. Real dad has made some bad decisions, and is now a guest of the State of TX - but his parents are good people, so we got in contact - have been letter writing and phoning for approx a year and we're leaving Saturday to go visit.
I'm taking my 7 year old DS because this is a family vacation - its the only one I get this year, and honestly between kids and animals and work - its hard to get away. Besides the biol. grandparents have been great, and have worked to include my 7 year old.
So my ex sends me a text today saying that 7 year old doesn't want to go, it would be best if he stayed. I blinked a couple times, started typing a nasty text back - but before I could send it I got another one telling me that my 7 year old doesn't even know these people - so what's the point. I decided against the nasty text and sent back that its our vacation - and none of his business.
He then sends me another message about how I can screw (I'm trading out words to make it more family friendly) up my own kid with those losers - but don't bring 7 year old into it. Now I'm getting upset and I send him a message telling him to stop texting me.
So what does he do? He sends me another message - saying he's looking out for DS's best interests, and there's no reason for DS to know these people. I had had enough and called and left him a voicemail telling him that it was MY vacation, MY time with the kids, HE chose to walk out, HE doesn't get a say anymore - and if he keeps bugging me, I'm going to pursue harrassment charges (I work for lawyers, very handy). And then I shut my phone off for the rest of the day.
Aargh!! I thought when the divorce was final, this would stop. Oldest DS's grandparents are very nice - and I think its important for youngest DS to know them - after all we're all family.
Now I know why youngest DS has been complaining about going... Think someone has been putting bugs in his ears about what a horrible time we'll have.
Thanks for listening. I do have to say I was proud of myself for never sending nasty texts or voice mails - I think the counseling has finally paid off!!