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Well DH had to go to hospital today. He is having a lot of issues with the spine.
They are going to try to inject stuff into the neck and spine in 4 weeks time. I guess they have to monitor his heart. They had said they were not going to do that due to the heart condition. I am wondering about that? He had to have injections in both elbows before we went away. He has also had injections into both his hands too. But the spine is different. I am not sure what they will inject into that as they said they couldn;t do it before? Also DH has had issues with the heart again recently sore tightness of the chest and clammy sweats again. All very concerning.
Anyhow they have said that after the injections the next step will be surgery on c4 and c5 - Of course that means DH will not be in any fit state to be caring for Danny. So I am going to have to fight for some kind of help/support service or perminent care for Dan if we go down that route. Thing is I am not able to care for both of them. IF Dh is going to be that sick and need that level of round the clock care after surgery then I am not going to be able for them both. Even their rules of claiming careres allowence don;t let me have more than one care allowence ( Because they believe it is not possible to "care" adiquately for two disabled folk at the same time hence me having to chose which one of my children I "cared for"! ) If that is what they believe and thus will only pay out one set of care allowence by their own deffinaition I am unable to "care for both of these people at the same time and so they will have to do something to help. They will have to stop dropping all the care responsibility at my feet and organise proper outside of the home care. It is going to be a long road ahead and I am hoping that - actually it sounds bad but I am and so is my DD hoping that DH will have the spinal surgery. The injections of pain killers are just masking the problem but surgery may fix it to an extent that he gets some quality of life back.
Anyhow I am exhausted so am for bed.
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They are going to try to inject stuff into the neck and spine in 4 weeks time. I guess they have to monitor his heart. They had said they were not going to do that due to the heart condition. I am wondering about that? He had to have injections in both elbows before we went away. He has also had injections into both his hands too. But the spine is different. I am not sure what they will inject into that as they said they couldn;t do it before? Also DH has had issues with the heart again recently sore tightness of the chest and clammy sweats again. All very concerning.
Anyhow they have said that after the injections the next step will be surgery on c4 and c5 - Of course that means DH will not be in any fit state to be caring for Danny. So I am going to have to fight for some kind of help/support service or perminent care for Dan if we go down that route. Thing is I am not able to care for both of them. IF Dh is going to be that sick and need that level of round the clock care after surgery then I am not going to be able for them both. Even their rules of claiming careres allowence don;t let me have more than one care allowence ( Because they believe it is not possible to "care" adiquately for two disabled folk at the same time hence me having to chose which one of my children I "cared for"! ) If that is what they believe and thus will only pay out one set of care allowence by their own deffinaition I am unable to "care for both of these people at the same time and so they will have to do something to help. They will have to stop dropping all the care responsibility at my feet and organise proper outside of the home care. It is going to be a long road ahead and I am hoping that - actually it sounds bad but I am and so is my DD hoping that DH will have the spinal surgery. The injections of pain killers are just masking the problem but surgery may fix it to an extent that he gets some quality of life back.
Anyhow I am exhausted so am for bed.
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