- Aug 8, 2011
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zzgypsy, you are very wise. You may be speaking to the OP, but you speak to many of us. Not just on this post, but on many I've read. We all want our loved ones to "know" what we need but that's unrealistic. Do we know what our loved ones need? Probably not. We need to do - and love - the best we can. And if we really need something, we need to tell our loved ones. They can't read our minds ,and we shouldn't expect them to.
thank you, it's been hard-earned. I'm the proud owner of a hard head with a *lot* of lumps on it...
I had lots of ideas about the magic of love... probably most folks do. turns out, now that I have a more practical view of love and life and relationships, things work a lot better than they did when I believed "love is enough". love, itself, is not enough. it takes work, generosity, skills, patience, and the willingness to let go of things that don't matter much, but still occupy our attention.
the interesting thing is, now that I rely on magic less, and skills, effort and attention more, I find the miracle of my husband loving me as he does touches me more than when I thought it was all supposed to just magically work because you were in love.