Oh oesdog I know exactly what your feeling, going through, and how it just tears you up as you go between severe guilt to excitement for you and for your son. My son is 12 and sounds much like your son. He has autism, severe cognitive delays that get worse all the time, and a seizure disorder. Last Friday we had genetic testing done for Dravets Syndrome. Life is very, very difficult. Yesterday when I got him off the bus and wouldn't let him get into my husbands semi truck he proceeded to kick me, head butt me, call me names, etc. I'm crying out of frustration, he's crying. 10 minutes later he's fine but really tired, which I think is why he does this to begin with mixed with all the physical and emotional problems and all the meds he's on it makes for a very mixed up little boy who goes from being sweet as tea to mad as a little bantam roo . We've been through brain surgery (no change), years of week long monitorings, and he has the VNS which we turned back on Friday after many years of being off. Tried every med available, etc.....
We'll be making this decision in years to come and I know your pain. It does feel like we are giving our children up because of the type of children they are. And then in the same breath the excitement grown because yes they'll have some new people in their lives and new experiences but also it means a HUGE break for us as parents. My husband and I haven't slept in the same room in 10 years since one of us sleeps with Colt to make sure his face isn't burried in the bed when is seizes. Makes for a very tough married life along with everything else. Stay strong and take comfort that you gave him and still will all your love for 24 years and now it's time for others to get the chance to love him also. And it sounds like this place is a beautiful, wonderful place for our children. I wish we had a place like that. It would make that move when the time comes sooo much easier I would think.
Hugs to you and your sons.
Cara
We'll be making this decision in years to come and I know your pain. It does feel like we are giving our children up because of the type of children they are. And then in the same breath the excitement grown because yes they'll have some new people in their lives and new experiences but also it means a HUGE break for us as parents. My husband and I haven't slept in the same room in 10 years since one of us sleeps with Colt to make sure his face isn't burried in the bed when is seizes. Makes for a very tough married life along with everything else. Stay strong and take comfort that you gave him and still will all your love for 24 years and now it's time for others to get the chance to love him also. And it sounds like this place is a beautiful, wonderful place for our children. I wish we had a place like that. It would make that move when the time comes sooo much easier I would think.
Hugs to you and your sons.
Cara
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