Assuming the widow's one of your sisters, I'd go to support her; screw everyone else.
I do not believe in incest.
Which breeds?
-Kathy
Muscovies and Pekin.
I have family like that....If you had a good relationship with your BIL, then go the funeral to show your respects to HIM. Who cares what anyone else thinks. You might be surprised when you get there how many people are happy that you went. I really am sorry for your loss.
Thank you.