The Front Porch Swing

[bruceha2000]

We got married yesterday. All casual like.

Congratulations but um, given this post from 6 days ago, did I miss something? Time warp some where?
" but when my husband moved in with me he was under the house at 1am redoing wiring "

 

[Wisher1000]

Quote: They have considered each other a spouse for a long time, yesterday was just getting it made official! Congrats!

 

[Blooie]

Yayy for the TomTomMoms family! You took the day and made it about family, not trimmings and fol-de-rol...that's so like the TT I've come to know and love! Congratulations! Ohh, I'm wiggling all over with joy for you all.

 

[topdycke]

Congratulations TomTomMom!

 

[Tomtommom]

Congratulations but um, given this post from 6 days ago, did I miss something? Time warp some where?
" but when my husband moved in with me he was under the house at 1am redoing wiring "

See what had happened was...

I will save you the long story, the short version is he got divorced and got custody of his kid 3 years ago. His ex got mad and had the judge toss out the verdict (she failed to show up twice, pulled some bla bla). So his divorce was in the newspaper and everything, but then he got un-divorced... and our wedding plans got put on ice. This whole thing went on another THREE years, before they finally got the divorce finalized, again.

We decided when things got put on ice to just wear our weddings bands and go with it. We were having a kid and I hated the thought of being an unmarried mom (I know, most folks aren't too worried about it... but I felt kinda bad about it). The ceremony was nothing but a legality to me.

His ex got married the day after Thanksgiving, she's got a 1 1/2 year old with her new fellah... so it wasn't like she didn't want to divorce. She just didn't want to pay child support

(her words)

 

[perchie.girl]

Quote:
What a Dbag.... Hey I like your new Avatar.

deb

 

[Tomtommom]

What a Dbag.... Hey I like your new Avatar.

deb

It's Ms. Elenor Rigby being elegant in the background. I was looking through my pictures and just laughed and laughed when I found this gem. I hadn't noticed it taking the picture.

 

[Tomtommom]

Also, her own mom signed over her parental rights to her step-mom, because she didn't want to pay $100 child support every month

Runs in the family. Her dad had custody of her. Now Justin has custody of their son.

Justin's ex has paid $100 ONCE in 3 years time. It drives me nuts, comes to the house bragging about her new phone, buying a horse, her wedding dress bla bla.. and I'm just thinking to myself "And yet you wont pay a penny for your kid's care.." First time that boy came to spend the night at my house I went and got him a bed, clothes, toys etc. Back then it was "You want to see your kid? How much money am I gonna get this week?" Justin gave her entire paychecks at first until she got herself evicted for not paying the bills (all the while she was crying to her family that he wasn't giving her any money, so they gave her money too). They hadn't even been to court yet. He just felt he needed to make sure his kid was taken care of.

She'll have to tell it to the judge come spring, since there's a child support hearing within the next few months. Explain why she felt she didn't have to pay anything. He's already none to pleased with her as it is. She came to court wearing an orange jumpsuit and leg irons to the last hearing, you know, after already not showing up to two hearings before that... I don't know where this is going to head to, we'll see. If she rather signs over her rights, I'd adopt that boy in a heartbeat... But I just feel sad for him, because he thinks the world of his mommy. One day when he's older he will start putting the pieces together

I hope she gets her stuff together. I want him to be proud of his mom.

So far.. not looking good. They've moved again (this is the... 4th time I think, in a year. Maybe 5th). They're staying at a friend's house, again. He was telling us the other day that he doesn't even have a bed and sleeps with one of the friend's kids in the same bed. I know it breaks Justin's heart when he hears stuff like that.



ANYWAY


Last day of school. They're out at 1pm. We'll do some fun things. I really need to clean the house too. I've been slacking

Too busy having fun with the kiddos.

 

[LindaB220]

Also, her own mom signed over her parental rights to her step-mom, because she didn't want to pay $100 child support every month

Runs in the family. Her dad had custody of her. Now Justin has custody of their son.

Justin's ex has paid $100 ONCE in 3 years time. It drives me nuts, comes to the house bragging about her new phone, buying a horse, her wedding dress bla bla.. and I'm just thinking to myself "And yet you wont pay a penny for your kid's care.." First time that boy came to spend the night at my house I went and got him a bed, clothes, toys etc. Back then it was "You want to see your kid? How much money am I gonna get this week?" Justin gave her entire paychecks at first until she got herself evicted for not paying the bills (all the while she was crying to her family that he wasn't giving her any money, so they gave her money too). They hadn't even been to court yet. He just felt he needed to make sure his kid was taken care of.

She'll have to tell it to the judge come spring, since there's a child support hearing within the next few months. Explain why she felt she didn't have to pay anything. He's already none to pleased with her as it is. She came to court wearing an orange jumpsuit and leg irons to the last hearing, you know, after already not showing up to two hearings before that... I don't know where this is going to head to, we'll see. If she rather signs over her rights, I'd adopt that boy in a heartbeat... But I just feel sad for him, because he thinks the world of his mommy. One day when he's older he will start putting the pieces together

I hope she gets her stuff together. I want him to be proud of his mom.

So far.. not looking good. They've moved again (this is the... 4th time I think, in a year. Maybe 5th). They're staying at a friend's house, again. He was telling us the other day that he doesn't even have a bed and sleeps with one of the friend's kids in the same bed. I know it breaks Justin's heart when he hears stuff like that.



ANYWAY


Last day of school. They're out at 1pm. We'll do some fun things. I really need to clean the house too. I've been slacking

Too busy having fun with the kiddos.

I live with Aimee and Clint, her second husband, and gson AJ. He's 21 now but when he was 6 or 7 Aimee and Tony Sr divorced. Tony Jr was so sad because he was sure that it was his fault. This rocked on for a few months and Aimee met Clint. They got married a year or so later and since Tony Sr was being such an *****, Clint wanted to adopt the boy. Just couldn't afford it. So Tony's new In-laws paid to have Clint adopt Tony Jr. The judge was less than amused that all of this came about so Tony wouldn't ever have to pay child support again. Tony Jr told the judge that he didn't want his name Tony H Griffin Jr anymore. The judge said Sure, pick a name. And he had one ready. Alex James, AJ, Hortman. Tony Sr called the next week and said he would like to have Tony Jr visit him occasionally. Aimee said that there is no one by that name here and don't call back. EVER. What comes around, goes around. To be honest, Tony Sr's own dad threw him away too. He walked around like a thundercloud was always hovering. AJ has been in therapy since he was 7 yrs old for depression. Then it reverted to big time mental problems at 15. Always been a sad little boy. Right now, he's the happiest I've ever seen him. But he still has his bad days.

 

[bruceha2000]

Also, her own mom signed over her parental rights to her step-mom, because she didn't want to pay $100 child support every month

Runs in the family. Her dad had custody of her. Now Justin has custody of their son.

Justin's ex has paid $100 ONCE in 3 years time. It drives me nuts, comes to the house bragging about her new phone, buying a horse, her wedding dress bla bla.. and I'm just thinking to myself "And yet you wont pay a penny for your kid's care.." First time that boy came to spend the night at my house I went and got him a bed, clothes, toys etc. Back then it was "You want to see your kid? How much money am I gonna get this week?" Justin gave her entire paychecks at first until she got herself evicted for not paying the bills (all the while she was crying to her family that he wasn't giving her any money, so they gave her money too). They hadn't even been to court yet. He just felt he needed to make sure his kid was taken care of.

She'll have to tell it to the judge come spring, since there's a child support hearing within the next few months. Explain why she felt she didn't have to pay anything. He's already none to pleased with her as it is. She came to court wearing an orange jumpsuit and leg irons to the last hearing, you know, after already not showing up to two hearings before that... I don't know where this is going to head to, we'll see. If she rather signs over her rights, I'd adopt that boy in a heartbeat... But I just feel sad for him, because he thinks the world of his mommy. One day when he's older he will start putting the pieces together

I hope she gets her stuff together. I want him to be proud of his mom.

So far.. not looking good. They've moved again (this is the... 4th time I think, in a year. Maybe 5th). They're staying at a friend's house, again. He was telling us the other day that he doesn't even have a bed and sleeps with one of the friend's kids in the same bed. I know it breaks Justin's heart when he hears stuff like that.

Sietske - Justin has a serious case to get permanent custody of the boy. No judge is going to decide that his living with his mom is the "stable home" that they look for when they decide who gets custody. Start documenting all of this and present it to the court with a request for custody. I'm sure Justin wouldn't give a rat's patootie about financial support from the ex, just give me the boy and we'll be good.

And the orange jumpsuit and leg irons? Mental instability fashion statement or was there an officer of the law escorting her into court?