But, my dear, my point was that there's no reason you should have to "learn the hard way." That still puts the onus on them and none on you. Just start. Start somewhere. Start on your own. No need to make a big production of it or start off with something hard. Pick one thing - spending on animals, controlling your temper, learning the banking system, just something - and begin your personal lesson in accountability and self-discipline there. Just that one little change. They don't even have to know you're doing it - it's all about you learning to make sensible change in small ways totally on your own. You can do this, but it sounds like at this time you don't want to. After you master that, move on. Smaller steps are far less intimidating than giant ones. The rewards take longer, but consider them as building blocks. We all started somewhere.