I would love to continue this conversation, but I must go! I shall join in the morning and hopefully I don't have 50 pages to catch up on when I get on tomorrow...
My point was, if most people are bitter when they lose, but you're happy for the sake of seeing others happy, then it might be preferable for you to lose because then everyone's happy!
But if you win in your mind, whether by being a good sport or being honestly happy to see others as the winner, you can always be a winner. A winner maybe not in the race, but in many other things.
That moment when you feel you don't need to quote the post because it's right above yours. Then you post it to find that about three are in front of yours so now your post doesn't make sense!
That's the answer to the question, 'Which came first, the phoenix or the flame?' It's not as bad as: 'Where do vanished objects go?' 'Into nonbeing, which is to say, everything.'