Call the principle?

[herfrds]

Picked my son up after school and ran into one of the other kids from school at the store. She asked my son if he was ok and that it was pretty crappy what happened during lunch.
Huh?

Found out he and this other student were talking and a different student walked up and whispered something into the ear of the kid he was talking to, this kid then sucker punched my son in the nose.

they both ended up in the principles office. My son was sent back to class and heard nothing about this kid getting punished.
My concern is the principle is a do nothing dork. I can go into tons of stories about things he has done or not done.

Should I call tomorrow and find out if this other kid was punished?

My son is 13 and didn't hit the kid back.

 

[ArizonaNessa]

I think my first question would be why was I not contacted about my son being in a physical altercation. If my child was hit by anyone I would want someone to at least tell me. What would have happened if later your son got ill or started having problems and you didn't know about this? You wouldn't know what to tell the doctor. It could go terribly bad. I don't mean to blow this out of proportion but seriously they should have at least told you something happened to your child.

 

[suzettex5]

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I agree 100%!!!!

Isnt there a zero tolerence policy in all US schools? In Ca, both kids would have been in the office, police would have been called and both parties suspended. Yeah, I think thats' ridiculous- punishing the one that is innocent, but c'mon!! The kid punched your son! I would have lurked around the school after it got out and found that childs parents- or followed the bus till it came to his stop! And yes, I'm THAT mom- ROAR!!!! How dare that school not notify you- I cant believe it! I would be in an uproar (i think i might be in one now, LOL)

I'm so sorry your son was attacked, poor guy. I dont know the whole story, only he does, but still, someone seriously fell down on the job at that school

Just not right....

 

[herfrds]

This is the second time this sort of thing has happened. Different bullies and different priciples.

Going to call the super tomorrow and we are going to have a chat. I can be nice and I can be a nasty royal you know what.

This issue is going to be addressed even if i have to call the sheriff's department into it. Local town cops are worthless.

yes I am going to find out why I was not called. His school lets out at 3:30 and this happened around noon.

 

[ArizonaNessa]

Don't forget that you catch more flies with honey than you do vinegar! Be calm and pleasant but serious and firm all at the same time. If you go in there steaming mad and go off on them you will get no where fast.

 

[herfrds]

Called and talked to the super this morning.
I asked him 1, why was I not contacted when my son was punched?
2, what was the punishment for the puncher?
3,what was done with the instigator?

Waiting to hear from the principle.

 

[Mattemma]

Hope your son is OK. I have had to deal with schools and bullying.First you get sympathy and promises that the situation will be resolved.Next you often get schools officials going blind/deaf responding with," We were not aware that happened.We heard/We saw nothing." And finally you get the flip and that means they start blaming YOUR child for causing the problems. Zero tolerance and/or anti-bully laws look super nice on the school(districts) rules,but if the people in charge do nothing........

I hope you have better luck than I did.I pulled my child out of the school who did nothing to protect him,and I will pull my child again if needed. If I follow the rules of the complaint process and it is not resolved IMMEDIATELY then I will move on.Life is to short to let my child get bullied while I beg the school to protect him.He can learn somewhere else.

Best wishes!

I rarely got told what was done to the offenders,but whatever they did did not stop the kicking,spitting,hitting,or pushing.

 

[Marie1234]

You might want to ask your 13 year old son what he thinks you should do or not do. Sometimes boys of that age are getting to the point of wanting to handle things their own way. He demonstrated maturity by not fighting back at school and his peers recognize who is the decent person in this and who the slime buckets are. That peer recognition is very important. Getting yourself overly involved implies you might not have faith in his ability to handle things himself.
You can toss it out there that you are willing and able to go head to head with the principal, super, parents of the kids involved if needed or willing to let him deal with things on his own for a while and see how it plays out. A pact between you and your son that you will do things as he wishes showing your trust in him, as long as he keeps you updated on the situation at school showing his trust in you, might be a good start.

 

[horsejody]

If it were my son, I would not only talk to the principal, but I would talk to other kids or adults that may have witnessed it. I would also call the police. If the story holds up, your son was an assault victim. The school doesn't have the final say about whether or not charges are filed. You do. If the principal is as bad as you suspect about handling bullies, then a little intervention from law enforcement may help resolve that. Most importantly, get the whole story. Talk to the principal and witnesses. Also demand that you be notified immediately of any future assaults or altercations involving your son.

 

[horsejody]

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It may also demonstarte to bullies that he's an easy target. It may also demonstrate to bullies that such behaviour will not have any repercussions.