How rude!

[Camelot Farms]

I normally dont get annoyed over little things but this just ticks me off.

We had a scheduled visit this morning with a worker from our local Childrens Services Program to fill out an application for an in-home counseling program for DD who some of you may remember is going through a horrible time with anxiety and fear of death.

So, I get the house clean...I mean immaculate..you could eat off of the floor! The chick knocks at the door, DD runs to answer it. I am in the kitchen and holler 'come on in'. She comes in, walking across my then spotless carpets and behind her is a big lumbering young man wearing work boots, which have now ground oodles of mud into my carpet. I do provide a mud rug at the door into our foyer for wiping off shoes...neither of them used it and neither offered to remove their shoes.

We sit down at the table and I look at the young man and she finally introduces him as an intern. OK. He doesnt smile, thank me for allowing him to come in and listen to all of my child's issues which of course include any and all issues that our family may be having....financial, legal etc etc, nor does she ask my permission. He sits there looking around the house, not making eye contact with me at all. I am pretty used to interns having working in Human Services for years and years so I try to break the ice and ask 'So, where are you interning from'. I hear 'Mmm, RRR, Mm', which I was able to translate from mumble to english and come up with the name of a local college.

So, I guess I am peeved over 2 things.
1) bringing all of that mud into my house without so much as an apology
2) bringing a stranger into my home without asking my permission for a professional appointment

Maybe I am super-annoyed because as a home visitor, I would NEVER do that someone else. I feel extremely disrepected.
Grrrr!!!

 

[sonew123]

Nope Id be ticked and I would have said please take shoes off at door. When I steam clean carpets-I ask everyone to remove shoes at door-after a few months its all nasty again:-( I do have a mud carpet at front door with ample space for 20 pairs of shoes!

 

[Scoop]

 

[SarahBeth9394]

If you don't want those shoes walking across the floor then tell them to take them off. As someone who visits homes he needs to learn to look for shoes at the door, upon seeing them ask if the person prefers he to take his off, and bring along a pair of slippers just in case. That's what I learned to do. Everyone was either grateful that I thought of it or politely said "oh your shoes are fine".

Also you don't bring along an intern without first asking the permission of the person whose home you are visiting.

 

[MagsC]

 

[Chickerdoodle13]

That would tick me off as well! However, I have been finding that there are quite a few people who do not take off their shoes in their own houses. This surprises me sooo much! My mom was always very strict about no shoes in the house and I always take off my shoes at other people's houses. One of my room mates here at school just will not take her shoes off unless I constantly remind her to do so. The worst part is she wears work boots all the time and constantly tracks mud, salt, and sand onto our floors. I end up having to vacuum numerous times during the week and when it gets to that point I get angry at her. She just doesn't get it. Apparently, the dirt on the floors just isn't a big deal to her!

 

[Nupine]

That is very rude. I do not take my own shoes off in the house all the time, but typically my shoes are very clean. I do usually take my shoes off at other people's house, but it depends. If it was a fancy clean house, of couse I would. But if it was a house in the country and the people who live there have shoes on, I wouldn't bother as long as my shoes were clean. Now, there are also houses I have been in that are not clean by any means, and if I took my shoes off I would fear that I would step in feces or food or dirty clothes or something else gross, by all means, MY SHOES STAY ON!!!!!!!!!!
Ashlyn

 

[redhen]

Yup..i'd be very upset also...
And i would call her and let her know that she cant bring any more un-invited people to your house with out calling and asking first.

 

[beerman]

I do not take my shoes off at home because I can't stand walking around in socks or barefoot. If I go to someone's home where you have to take your shoes off I do the simple thing... I don't go in!! I think it is a great solution but can you believe that I have people get mad at me because I won't go in their house. I have some relatives that won't talk to me because I am "mean" I won't go in the house for birthday parties and such. Oh well I guess I will be a outcast forever

I would tell them next time to take their shoes off.

 

[cafarmgirl]

I also think that is terrible behavior and I agree with redhen that it deserves a response. Your permission should have been asked before someone else was allowed to sit in on that conversation and to track filth into your house is just inexcusable. Also, if this person is an intern then he should be getting some guidance on professional behavior.