I am in over my head.

CrazyFowlFreak

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Way over my head. I'm starting to freak out. I have too many animals and it's getting to me. Please don't make me feel any worse than I do right now. I have 5 dogs and two cats, not to mention all the birds. I cannot take all of these dogs anymore and don't know what to do. I've tried finding homes for three of the dogs to no avail. I will not take them to the pound, so I need some advice. I have a Chihuahua, a feist mix, and a red St. Poodle that need new homes before I lose my mind. I've advertised on Yahoo groups and here with no luck. If anyone knows of anyone who would be interested in any of these dogs, please let me know.

The feist mix is a 3 year old spayed female. We used to live in town , but moved here last summer to 12 acres in the woods. She will not be contained. We've tried everything. If we tied her up or keep her in a run, she refuses to eat. She wants to run amok and I'm afraid she's going to get shot or run over by a car. She's the nicest girl, but my kids are allergic to her. At the other house, she was in a fenced yard, here she's smelled the call of the wild (
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) and isn't happy unless she can be free. She's housebroken and knows basic commands, loves kids, and is every animal's friend. The Chihuahua is an UN-neutered male. Every time I had an appt to have him neutered, we'd end up stuck in the snow with no way to get out for days. So now he's a true male Chihuahua. He lifts his leg on stuff and humps and yaps at everything. Ugh. The St. Poodle turned 1 year old in January and is also not neutered. He was bought as a stud dog and I admit my mistake. He's an absolute sweetheart. Big and silly. Doesn't lift his leg yet, and does not hump. He's just too big for me. I was told I'd have more help and I'm not getting it.
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I can't even keep up the grooming on the poodle. I can't finish anything. Ever.

I am Bi Polar and had all of these grand ideas of having a bunch of animals and now it's just too much. I'm starting to fall into a hole of depression here over this. It's all my fault and I take the blame here. I just am at my wits end and cannot handle the stress anymore. I'm not looking to make any money off of these guys, just enough to know they'll go to good homes, you know? If anyone has an ideas for me to try, I'd truly appreciate it. All I'm asking is $25 for the feist, $50 for the Chi and $200 (I paid $850) for the St. Poodle. Is this too much? Is that why I'm not getting any interest?

I've sat here for the past four days crying and feeling like less of a person over this. I feel like a total dirtbag for taking on more than I can handle and feel like a jerk even asking for adoption fees. I don't know. Ugh. DH is peeved, rightly so, he doesn't want me to just give them away, he said to get a few bucks so I know they go to a good home. He even said he'd trade farm stuff for them. I just am having no luck finding them a home. They don't even need to go together.

I've been taking my medication but I'm still just so defeated. I just want to lay down and sleep all the time. Please don't think less of me for posting this, but I need help and have no real life friends to talk to.

I am in Southeast WV, near Beckley, Charleston, near Tazewell, VA, Roanoke, Va
Adding pics per request:
Niblet:
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Weeman (he weighs about 2lbs.):
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Rufus as a puppy:
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what he looks like now. I'll have to get a current pic of him, this is from google not a pic of him. He is this color and looks like this pic, but I have him shaved down for spring:
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Deep breath!

1st of all....good for you for realizing that things need to change. Thats huge!!

2nd, if you dont get any response from the BYC community, I would contact your local animal rescue for some help. If you need help doing that, PM me and I would be happy to help ya.

I just took in a fellow BYCers Lab/Chow mix when they got called to duty in Germany so my doggie space is full
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Really. If you need help getting things worked out with your local rescue, PM me or email me at [email protected]

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No one is going to think bad of you. The fact that you knowing you are over your head says you really care for these animals and want the best for them. Is there a shelter near you that is a no kill shelter where they would find a home for them? I know you spent alot of money for these dogs but today even good full bred dogs are being given away so you might have to take a loss, but if you can find good homes I sure that might get you some peace. Post where you are from there might be a byc member willing to take one in and give a good home to them. Good luck.
 
I couldn't just post and run ((hugs)).
I agree with the PP. If you have to, put an ad on craigslist/yahoo groups that they're free to good home. Do what you need to do to rehome them.
 
Can you email me a picture of the chihuahua and the poodle? My aunts looking for a male chi and I have a friend that adores poodles, were in VA so not to far from you!
 
All right....breathe......

It is okay, we all sometimes bite of more than we can chew. It happens. At least you are realizing that you've reached your limit! Now it is a matter of taking baby steps and getting some simplicity back into your life. Craigslist is an excellent place to put your dogs for rehoming. Just be sure to meet somewhere...don't have people come to your home, it can put you at risk. You can charge a small reasonable rehoming fee as well.

As far as feeling overwhelmed, hang in there. Do something kind for yourself, a hot bath, a massage, sometimes we all need a little pampering. Try to take baby steps, try doing one thing you don't feel like doing. It will help you start feeling back in control. Pick one little thing you can do, and do it. If you can't keep up with grooming the poodle, get him groomed. He will probably be easier to place neutered, as will the others.

I think as far as being judged, if anyone judges you, they really have no compassion.

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Well first of all don't feel bad.You must have a very loving heart to have taken all the animal's in to start with.I found myself in same boat up until last year.We were basicly told by the bank wasn't going to help us with mortgage so We gave up everything.I sold 4 chin's, 5 rabbit's my hutch,gave my 2 long time ferrets to a friend.parted with over 200 outside critter's duck's, chicken's, turkey, geese guinea's.Gave a way a lovebird.Gosh it was really hard caring for them.But I know that most have good home's.Crazy thing is after moving out after 3 months bank wanted to fix so We moved back. Baaaaa I miss my critter's.I am trying to restock some outside bird's and ducks now.I lost 3 of my oldest cat's in move.We had to place some dog's and kittie's over the first year's here cause people would just drop them here.Put ad's in local trader's and offer pic's of the animal's I placed 2 dog's and some kitten's just by putting up ad's and flyer's.Now my daughter just brought another dog home 2 day's ago.He get's a trial run he seem's to be doing better with the bird's.I'm not totaly over run yet again and don't want to be as have grandbaby full time here.I hope you can find someone to take them in I'm sure you will.Oh and I forgot the purebred Shizu puppy hubby had bought me 3 month's prior too.I wound up had to place her for free tooo.Cause the place We moved to had carpet and she wasn't fully house trained.
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.Good luck and God Bless. DG
 
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FIRST OFF LET ME GIVE YOU A
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EVERYONE HAS THESE BAD TIMES IN THEIR LIVES WHERE THEY FEEL DEFEATED I KNOW HOW YOU FEEL. IVE BEEN GOING THROUGH THIS BUMP IN THE ROAD WHERE I HAVE BEEN LOSING EVERYTHING REALLY IMPORTANT AND MY HUSBAND IS REALLY MAD AT ME AND THEN I HAVE MY FATHER IN LAW YELLING TOO. MY MOTTO IN LIFE IS THE MORE THINGS AND ANIMALS YOU HAVE THE MORE PROBLEMS YOU HAVE . SO SIMPLIFY LIFE THATS WHAT IM WORKING ON AND PRAYER HELPS ME THROUGH EVERY PROBLEM I HAVE. TRUST IN THE LORD HE ALWAYS COMES THROUGH.
 

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