I'm in my last few weeks of pregnancy (due between June 6th and 12th, just depends on when he's ready to come out) and it seems like every little thing is getting to me! I'm still living with my parents, brother, SIL, their now 3 girls (5, 3, and newborn), and now my fiance. Blu (fiance) is wonderful as always. He knows when I'm a bad mood and does everything he can to keep from causing me any problems whether they be caused by or related to him. My mom on the other hand tries her hardest to make sure I know everything he's doing wrong, makes sure I'M the one that know what SHE wants HIM to do (she makes it a point to never tell him herself), and always makes sure to tell me that she's not trying to run either of us off. She also tells me that she knows I THINK I love him. I'd just love it if she'd stop trying to stress me out so bad that my anxiety disorder starts acting up again. Keep all this in mind, I'm not done with her just yet.
My SIL just had her 3rd daughter a few weeks ago. She stressed herself out so bad during her pregnancy that they had to perform a C-section early to keep from losing the baby. The problem is the source of the stress. Ever since we found out I'm having a boy My SIL has been worried that my mom will love him more than my nieces. My mom is a lot like my grandmother was (even though she was my dad's mother) and no one would know it even if she did have a favorite. Mom and I have had this conversation several times and I know she loves them all the same. When I found out I'm having a boy my SIL gave me the cold shoulder and glared at me for 2 weeks. I know she wanted a boy, but there's nothing any of us could do about who has what. I have never had the greatest relationship with my SIL. We're just too different.
Now, let's put mom and my SIL together and throw in my 2 oldest nieces. I know kids will be kids, but these two act like they can do anything they want. They're at their worst when they come back from my SIL's parents', but they can be absolute brats on a daily basis. My brother, my dad, Blu, and I all try to teach them that there just some things you don't do or you get in a lot of trouble. First on the list is pitch fits over things they can't have. At 5 neither my brother nor me acted this way. They cry, scream, hit people, and act like someone is killing them over something they can't have. When they are told to stay out of the fridge because dinner is almost ready they don't listen to anyone and grab what they want. Then they refuse to eat dinner because they aren't hungry anymore. They know this isn't acceptable and when my brother tries to discipline them for it my SIL screams at him for it or my mom gets mad at him. This happens almost every time one of us tries to correct their bad behavior.
They run through the house screaming, hit the animals (and are not allowed near the chicks as a result. I refuse to lose them to the kids), try to run out the door when no one is outside, cry and scream when they have to clean up their mess, and the list goes on. What do my SIL and mom do when they get in trouble? Get mad at whoever gets on to them and babies the girls- effectively undoing everything we're trying to teach them. I've made it perfectly clear to my mom that when SJ is their age and gets in trouble I don't want her to baby him and him think it's ok to be bad and that we're getting on to him for no reason. They didn't raise me or my brother that way so I have no idea why she's doing it now.
In the past I've complained about how my dad acts sometimes, but recently the reason behind his continuous bad moods and attitude have come to light. His doctors have him on 3 different medications to control his blood pressure and it isn't working the way they want it to. Meaning, it almost does not work at all. I've been so worried about him since I found out that every Thursday no matter how little sleep I had the night before I wake up early and go to the feed store with him, which also includes taking my mom breakfast at work. In another effort to spend more time with him, I got something that he's been wanting for a few years now. When SilkieSensation offered to send me quail eggs as a part of an egg bomb I ran it by dad and he agreed to 'let me have them'. We both adore the 8 chicks, so I have one more thing I can talk to him about.
My brother has been pushing things related to Blu on me as well, but with him I can understand the reasoning behind it. My brother has a way of wording things that makes him come across as harsh and mean when he doesn't mean it that way. So when he tries to tell me something that would be better told to Blu, I have Blu come and talk to him. They get along fantastically, but my brother hasn't quite figured out that he isn't going to hurt Blu's feelings if words something wrong. Blu will just run what my brother said back to him and if it doesn't found right to my brother he'll correct himself. He's getting better about it, but it still drives me nuts.
Lately I've wanted nothing more than to strangle someone. Pregnancy has not been kind to me and with this being my last few weeks I've constantly been uncomfortable. I don't sleep well. I'm not really eating right, but thankfully the vitamins are helping to keep us healthy. I'm just worn out and I'm ready for a vacation. I know that won't happen any time soon, but at least I know I don't have much longer before SJ is here with us and I can try to get as much rest as I can while he's sleeping.
Sorry for the long vent, but I needed to get it off my chest.
My SIL just had her 3rd daughter a few weeks ago. She stressed herself out so bad during her pregnancy that they had to perform a C-section early to keep from losing the baby. The problem is the source of the stress. Ever since we found out I'm having a boy My SIL has been worried that my mom will love him more than my nieces. My mom is a lot like my grandmother was (even though she was my dad's mother) and no one would know it even if she did have a favorite. Mom and I have had this conversation several times and I know she loves them all the same. When I found out I'm having a boy my SIL gave me the cold shoulder and glared at me for 2 weeks. I know she wanted a boy, but there's nothing any of us could do about who has what. I have never had the greatest relationship with my SIL. We're just too different.
Now, let's put mom and my SIL together and throw in my 2 oldest nieces. I know kids will be kids, but these two act like they can do anything they want. They're at their worst when they come back from my SIL's parents', but they can be absolute brats on a daily basis. My brother, my dad, Blu, and I all try to teach them that there just some things you don't do or you get in a lot of trouble. First on the list is pitch fits over things they can't have. At 5 neither my brother nor me acted this way. They cry, scream, hit people, and act like someone is killing them over something they can't have. When they are told to stay out of the fridge because dinner is almost ready they don't listen to anyone and grab what they want. Then they refuse to eat dinner because they aren't hungry anymore. They know this isn't acceptable and when my brother tries to discipline them for it my SIL screams at him for it or my mom gets mad at him. This happens almost every time one of us tries to correct their bad behavior.
They run through the house screaming, hit the animals (and are not allowed near the chicks as a result. I refuse to lose them to the kids), try to run out the door when no one is outside, cry and scream when they have to clean up their mess, and the list goes on. What do my SIL and mom do when they get in trouble? Get mad at whoever gets on to them and babies the girls- effectively undoing everything we're trying to teach them. I've made it perfectly clear to my mom that when SJ is their age and gets in trouble I don't want her to baby him and him think it's ok to be bad and that we're getting on to him for no reason. They didn't raise me or my brother that way so I have no idea why she's doing it now.
In the past I've complained about how my dad acts sometimes, but recently the reason behind his continuous bad moods and attitude have come to light. His doctors have him on 3 different medications to control his blood pressure and it isn't working the way they want it to. Meaning, it almost does not work at all. I've been so worried about him since I found out that every Thursday no matter how little sleep I had the night before I wake up early and go to the feed store with him, which also includes taking my mom breakfast at work. In another effort to spend more time with him, I got something that he's been wanting for a few years now. When SilkieSensation offered to send me quail eggs as a part of an egg bomb I ran it by dad and he agreed to 'let me have them'. We both adore the 8 chicks, so I have one more thing I can talk to him about.
My brother has been pushing things related to Blu on me as well, but with him I can understand the reasoning behind it. My brother has a way of wording things that makes him come across as harsh and mean when he doesn't mean it that way. So when he tries to tell me something that would be better told to Blu, I have Blu come and talk to him. They get along fantastically, but my brother hasn't quite figured out that he isn't going to hurt Blu's feelings if words something wrong. Blu will just run what my brother said back to him and if it doesn't found right to my brother he'll correct himself. He's getting better about it, but it still drives me nuts.
Lately I've wanted nothing more than to strangle someone. Pregnancy has not been kind to me and with this being my last few weeks I've constantly been uncomfortable. I don't sleep well. I'm not really eating right, but thankfully the vitamins are helping to keep us healthy. I'm just worn out and I'm ready for a vacation. I know that won't happen any time soon, but at least I know I don't have much longer before SJ is here with us and I can try to get as much rest as I can while he's sleeping.
Sorry for the long vent, but I needed to get it off my chest.
