just thinking aloud

[chickentrains]

Especially when there's near nobody to talk to IRL. With many places closed or having limited hours, online spaces will become more chaotic.

Agree. With so many people cooped up inside with nothing better to do, its easy to feed into the not so good threads.

 

[chickentrains]

Coming from a theraputic educational school job for 30 yrs, I am really uncomfortable with people typing seriously depressing/self-hating/futile posts. I don't know if they're trolling, being drama queens, or sincerely in need of professional help. When I don't respond or comment, I worry that maybe I could have made a difference. BUT I don't want that responsibility for strangers. does this make sense?

YES, YES, YES, AND YES

its not random strangers problem to deal with YOU, its your issue. reach out to somebody. When I see a cry for help I post resources for their country and move on. Its not my problem, and I've got my own stuff to deal with.

Sounds cruel, but taking care of other people is emotionally damaging and its not something I wish to spend my time doing with complete strangers.

 

[Disintegration]

Coming from a theraputic educational school job for 30 yrs, I am really uncomfortable with people typing seriously depressing/self-hating/futile posts. I don't know if they're trolling, being drama queens, or sincerely in need of professional help. When I don't respond or comment, I worry that maybe I could have made a difference. BUT I don't want that responsibility for strangers. does this make sense?

This TOTALLY makes sense. You shouldn't have any responsibility over a stranger.

It's really uncomfortable to be put in a position like that for anything. Having a ton of depressing feelings dumped onto you can be really hard to carry at times, whether you were okay with listening or not.

 

[chickentrains]

. Having a ton of depressing feelings dumped onto you can be really hard to carry at times, whether you were okay with listening or not.

Permission is key. If you are in a relationship with somebody who has emotional troubles, they should be asking for permission to dump things on you, and you need to be comfortable with saying no if you cannot handle it.

Being friends with somebody who is constantly putting themselves down is EXHAUSTING and it's ALWAYS ok to say " we aren't compatible right now. I'm going to need to end this"

set healthy boundaries for yourself, YOU come first.

 

[Chickenslol]

Permission is key. If you are in a relationship with somebody who has emotional troubles, they should be asking for permission to dump things on you, and you need to be comfortable with saying no if you cannot handle it.

Being friends with somebody who is constantly putting themselves down is EXHAUSTING and it's ALWAYS ok to say " we aren't compatible right now. I'm going to need to end this"

set healthy boundaries for yourself, YOU come first.

i had a huge problem with this when it came to my relationships with others, i’d always form bonds with people who were in need and needed something from ME not the other way around. now i try to chose friends who are gonna help me as well as the other way around. one sided relationships suck lol