I am curious what others say. Several of my girls don't like to be handled. I will sit out in chair every evening for about an hour. I will give out some treats for only a sort time 5 minutes, but rest is me just there. I have two short sawhorses on either side of my chair, and are the same height as as the armrests. I let the girls decide how close they want to be. They've gone from dine and dash, to hanging on the sawhorses, to the armrest, to my lap. Most will leave if I pet them. I'm still working on it.