Rant about Coach.

Goat_Walker

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Ok - so Ive decided id be on the softball team this year since my volleyball coach in the softball coach and I have to be out with the softball team any way since She has started us working out for volleyball. So either way - on the team or not - id have to be out there working out and wont get home till six - six thirty every night.


Well people who know me know I have ducks. I love my ducks and they are a huge part of my life. They have taught me life lessons, they have gotten me through hard times, I have experienced new life and horrible death with my ducks. They are just a ginormous part of my life.

Its not hard to anger me as I do have a temper but I usually loose the anger as quick as I feel it. Except when you say/ do something against or harmful to my ducks.

Well All last year - May till august I was at work outs five days a week from 8 am till 12 pm. I missed five days because I had to go out of town to see my ill grandma.
I made every work out besides those - I never complain, I cheer and support my team and Im always there when something needs to be done.

She has told me that I am a hard worker and ive been asked by the basketball team and track team to join by multiple coaches. ( our school only has track, softball, volleyball, and basketball ) So I never slack and I pride myself for that.

Anyway - to the point. My ducks are my family - but also business. Today I have to meet up with someone who wants some of my ducks fro a birthday present tommorrow for her dad. Today is the only day to do that. I told my coach yesterday that I wont be at work outs today since i have to meet with someone about ducks -

This is where the drama happens.

She tells me no. That Im not ALLOWED to miss workouts, that I HAVE to be there.
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Unless you are my parents you do NOT tell me what I can and cant do with my ducks. I am a extremely independant young woman and I am all for womans rights and It jsut infuriated me when she tried to tell me that I couldnt go. She is my coach, not my mother, and i understand that she is all for the team comming first - but i havent missed one workout in the five weeks this year that we have been working out five days a week.

I told her that I needed to go so I could make a business transaction with a customer and that this was the only day - I had to argue ( polietly ) with her a little longer before she said " FIne, ill let it slide this one time because it is business - but dont do this again"

I would drop softball in a second if It tried to come between me and my ducks. Thats just the facts. It was very difficult for me to hold my anger in, but I did. Because I am a minor and she is an adult I know that it would be very innappropriate for me to talk back or argue with her - But I have been a loyal , supportive, and active member of the team so far and of the volleyball team and I really dont appriciate her talking to me like that!

Thats my little confusing rant I guess. Im not sure whether to approach her and say something about it because ti did upset me but its hard to talk to her because she is very maniplative.
 
First: Good job staying calm and keeping your temper. Maturity will generally get you much further than throwing tantrums.

Second: I can kind of see the coach's point. When you join a team, you make a commitment . . . yada yada yada. You've heard it all before, I'm sure.

That said, if you're not a serial shirker, it seems reasonable that she let you miss practice very occasionally. Which, to be fair, she did, once she understood that this was business, not just "pet time". I don't think I'd bring the subject back up, at least for now.

Keep up the good work on all you do!

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Personally, I would tell your parents about this.


It is a team, not a job. It is an activity, not a life-or-death struggle. Having adults seeing YOUR side of the issue could help in future conflict resolutions. Tell your parents that you settled it this time, but you wanted them to know what was going on in case something should happen again.
 
Ive talked to my parents and they are aware of the situation. I guess it just really made me mad becasue she is my coach - not my parents - and she tried to tell me where I am and am not allowed to go - and she tried to tell me what to do when it involved my ducks. I have put my heart and soul into my ducks fro over three years now, it'll be four in june, and I have no intention of putting my ducks - Living, breathing beings - behind a a softball team. I get that "the team comes first" But the team can feed themselves, the team can practice with one less girl, and the team wont mind that I take on eday off . My ducks on the other hand - have to be fed, given shelter, water, love, attention, medication, and a home. They need to be let out so they can forage and they need to be taken care of.

Im not very close with my coach, but I respect her as an adult and as my sports coach and athletic director. But outside of those situations ive lost respect for her just a tiny bit.
 

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