Banty, what exactly brought you to the conclusion that my roosters might be afraid of me? As previously stated, the rooster stick is NOT to be used to hurt, them. If that's what you took from it, then you read it wrong. The purpose of the rooster stick, is mostly to extend your reach, as an extension of your arm. A pool noodle would serve the same purpose, but it's not as rigid, giving you less control over it. I mention the pool noodle, because it would be next to impossible to hurt anything by tapping it with a pool noodle, giving a clearer idea of the use of "rooster stick".
The reason you tap it to startle them (not scare the tar out of them, there's a difference) is because at that age they tend to startle easy from a squawking hen, various sounds, sudden activity in the next pen, etc. and go into protection mode, which can provoke them into attacking. This helps condition them not to automatically go into protective mode, and attack you. Again, it's NOT about scaring the heck out of them. If that's what you took from it, then you read it wrong.
All of my roosters will come running towards me like the hens do, but the roosters slow down, and approach slowly WHEN they get into my personal space, and all of them expect to be petted. One loves to be picked up, and petted, but NOT in front of his ladies. I have to shoo the ladies out into the run, then pick him up, and snuggle. His ladies have to wait their turn. He doesn't know what a rooster stick is. He's never needed it.
Another loves to settle on my lap, and will push the ladies off my lap when he's on it. I used the rooster stick on him for about 2 weeks, when he became hormonal. He hasn't had a rooster stick used on him in 4 years, since that 2 week training. All my birds get picked up, and checked over on a daily, or every other day basis. I don't have to chase them down. They all love bath time, especially being wrapped like burritos in the big towels, after their baths. They're not so crazy about getting dusted for mites, but it's not traumatic. Spur, and toenail trimming is not an issue. They all settle right down without a struggle. The one that won't snuggle in front of his ladies, is ticklish on the bottom of his feet. None of my other roosters have ticklish feet like that, but a few of the hens are ticklish. I don't need help working with them, because they settle right down. Did I mention my roosters weigh 9 lbs? It would be very difficult for me to handle them by myself, if they didn't trust me.
The training, and attention pays off at the shows too. They don't get flustered easy in their new surroundings, they aren't intimidated by the judges handling them, or the multiple people that come through to look at them.
I also have a 3 year old Muscovy duck, rescued at about 3 days old. Is she spoiled too? Of course. Actually, when she gets broody, she's meaner than my roosters.
Are they pets? NO. I have a 14 year old cat that is a pet. I don't take on an animal, any animal, that I can't do my best in providing for their needs, safety, and comfort for their entire lives.