My father in law passed away Saturday morning peacefully in his sleep. It was a very quick death. My mother in law and he had purchased a cremation package several years ago and already, by Monday morning this has been done. There was no memorial, no photo with his obituary, no viewing, no proper goodbye! My husband just informed me that his ashes will be scattered this evening over the river that he loved to fish. I am sooo uncomfortable with all of this. The wind is whipping three different directions and I cannot fathom scattering his ashes into this crazy wind and I am not beyond admitting that I am squeamish. I envision a beautiful, sunny and maybe even a little breezy day. This to me seems like my mother in law doesn't want to bring the remains home. Maybe she doesn't? Who am I to have any input at all? My husband says that this is their wishes. I'm more inclined to think that it's my mother in laws addled mind making snap decisions. I can say that her third son, who lives in California, is here in town and I do believe that she wants to do this while he's here. I'm just so uncomfortable. Can someone help me to understand this lack of proper goodbye?
RIP Pop. You will be missed.
RIP Pop. You will be missed.