Sorry cant give you a womans point of view. But I will say he(the DH) will have more respect for you if you put your foot down. Isn't he concerned about daughters stuff. That would make me throw old bud and his dog out. Ok some men are dense but maybe he just doesnt know how you feel. You seem...
Just doesn't seem anyway to get anything done there and keep peace. You seem to have an insensative DH and a stupid dh's friend! Some serious attitude adjustment needs to occurr. I totaly agree with Terrie!
Randy