Sara,
This may sound strange, but picture yourself grabbing cancer by the horns and kicking it to pieces. I am not joking. VIEW YOURSELF AS A FIGHTER!!!! You may not have been able to help yourself when you were attacked, and my heart goes out to you - but your attitude now is of the utmost...
Sara,
First, my thoughts and prayers are with you- you are doing the right thing in learning as much as you can! You have gotten some great advice here- what little more I can tell you is just stuff from my personal experience.
I am a breast cancer survivor- had it twice in 1992- same breast...