I'm glad it's not all in my head! Her behavior and her wings are so different from his. I noticed yesterday his black shoulders are coming in and now there's a tuft of black feather on his chest! I called the breeder and left a message with my concerns and asked to arrange to trade for another pullet. The pullet is perfect, everything I imagined. She's really feathering out now and just sweet as could be with the younger chicks. It's too bad, if I was going to keep a rooster, I'd want a Faverolle they are so pretty!
Thank you everyone for your help I really appreciate it. Being totally new to this, I wouldn't have had the confidence to question the breeder without you all.