A hard way to find out something

[Blisschick]

I was reading the local paper online this morning, and a follow-up article to a story about an accident that occurred not too far from me identified the victims of the crash. I recognized one of the names, did a little research, and come to find out, was probably the son of a friend that I lost contact with about a year ago. I've known her son since he was 10, and she basically has watched my kids grow up. Through connected acquaintences, I got his step-father's number and it is confirmed he was the one who died. He was on his way to visit his step-father in the hospital when the accident happened. Unbelievable. I'm waiting for his mom to call me back to talk to her. I'm not sure I'll be able to say anything to make her feel better, but I did want her to know I was thinking about her.

He leaves behind a wife, two sons, and a step-daughter. He was only 27.

 

[Alexis]

How terribly sad! I hope that whatever you are able to say to her will help her feel comforted and loved. The biggest help would be for her to know you are there to listen or help however she needs it. She'll remember that for a long, long time. It is good of you to reach out - she needs all the friends she can get right now.

 

[BettyR]

OMG!!! How awful!!!!

I have 4 kids ranging in age from 23 to 30 I can’t imagine how I would cope if that happened to one of mine; my heart aches for her.

There is nothing you can say that will take the hurt away but you can be there for her. Listen to her and hold her while she cries.

 

[averytds]

Just listen and let her do the talking.

 

[SterlingAcres]

I'm so sorry

You can just be a shoulder. I can't imagine losing a child.

 

[newchickenfamily]

So sorry to hear that....I lost my 30 year old brother last year. Worst thing to EVER happen. Hard to see my parents suffer. Life will never be the same again.

Just be an ear and a shoulder to cry on. It honestly has helped my parents and I to have loving and supportive people around during the hard times.

 

[Blisschick]

I talked to her about an hour on the phone, then called my best friend, who has known her a long time, too. We're hoping to go out and see her either Saturday or Sunday evening. She's having her son cremated, so we want to help chip in for a shadow box for his urn. His cremation and all the arrangements have been paid for via donation, so that's one less thing she has to worry about. She's hanging in there...she said she's still pretty numb, but sure the reality of everything will hit her later. I just wish I lived closer to her instead of an hour away.

 

[Aneesa's Muse]

I'm glad you were able to talk to her, at least. In my experience with death, it is a great comfort for someone just to lend their support. You are a good friend.

 

[McGoo]

I'm sure she will appreciate your calling. Knowing that someone has gone out of their way to say they are sorry is soooo important.

All the best... it won't be easy.