Know what you mean, Noelani...acts so much like a girl, and Pakei acts like a male...BUT....Im having a new feeling that just maybe....the woman was wrong and here I am yrs later questioning it. Noelani can be mean to Pakei and when she is mad she takes his feathers out of his head only...then they are fine, and hanging out...Pakei will feed her, they groom each other. She is VERY VOCAL, and he is not....but Im wanting to know for sure. You know? I need to get a picture of them to post.