An Open Letter to Significant Others (a RANT)

[Aunt Angus]

Dear Significant Others,

If your betrothed asks for help, please consider helping. And if you decide you don't want to help, at least offer advice for how to accomplish the task for which your betrothed required help. There is a reason these requests are being made. It is not to annoy you or take time away from your favorite TV show, sport of choice, or hobby. It's being asked for because it is truly needed.

And if that doesn't work for you, at least refrain from pointing out what your betrothed could/should have done differently after the fact. That accomplishes nothing except for one of the following: 1) angering your betrothed, or 2) making him/her feel really stupid and insignificant. The latter is even more likely to occur if you choose to point out missteps using a derisive or mocking tone.

Respectfully,

Your Angry, Stupid and Insignificant Betrothed

 

[sourland]

 

[Shadrach]

Dear Significant Others,

If your betrothed asks for help, please consider helping. And if you decide you don't want to help, at least offer advice for how to accomplish the task for which your betrothed required help. There is a reason these requests are being made. It is not to annoy you or take time away from your favorite TV show, sport of choice, or hobby. It's being asked for because it is truly needed.

And if that doesn't work for you, at least refrain from pointing out what your betrothed could/should have done differently after the fact. That accomplishes nothing except for one of the following: 1) angering your betrothed, or 2) making him/her feel really stupid and insignificant. The latter is even more likely to occur if you choose to point out missteps using a derisive or mocking tone.

Respectfully,

Your Angry, Stupid and Insignificant Betrothed

In to the crock pot with him................ooops, wrong topic.

 

[N F C]

In to the crock pot with him................ooops, wrong topic.

Nope, I think you have the right answer Shad!

Sorry @Aunt Angus

 

[townchicks]

Totally on your side!

 

[Unicornlife3316]

Sounds like time for freezer camp!!

Oh... wait...

 

[BreanneRN]

Are you talking about your marital partner? If your significant other is "betrothed" and not working out, you can kick him to the curb, and call off the engagement! Once married, it requires a divorce, a much more tedious and onerous process. Being married and staying that way requires patience, a high tolerance for aggravation, ability to problem solve, negotiate, and compromise, and in the case of men, attention getting devices such as frying pans and rolling pins, in order that they will know you are to be taken seriously. Ranting and venting can draw down the anger levels in preparation for meaningful discussions, so have at it, but after, it would be more fruitful to draw your partners attention to the problems and issues at hand... Good luck with that! (and you can find a pretty good rolling pin on ebay). https://www.ebay.com/itm/Vintage-LO...:t9gAAOSwwZtdCoAG:sc:USPSPriority!93314!US!-1 Those maple wood ones are the bomb! (not that I'm advising any violence, just have it in your hand).

 

[Peppercorngal]

Are you talking about your marital partner? If your significant other is "betrothed" and not working out, you can kick him to the curb, and call off the engagement! Once married, it requires a divorce, a much more tedious and onerous process. Being married and staying that way requires patience, a high tolerance for aggravation, ability to problem solve, negotiate, and compromise, and in the case of men, attention getting devices such as frying pans and rolling pins, in order that they will know you are to be taken seriously. Ranting and venting can draw down the anger levels in preparation for meaningful discussions, so have at it, but after, it would be more fruitful to draw your partners attention to the problems and issues at hand... Good luck with that! (and you can find a pretty good rolling pin on ebay). https://www.ebay.com/itm/Vintage-LO...:t9gAAOSwwZtdCoAG:sc:USPSPriority!93314!US!-1 Those maple wood ones are the bomb! (not that I'm advising any violence, just have it in your hand).

And you got that right! 30 years married and use attention getting devices on occasion.

 

[Aunt Angus]

Oh, i'm just complaining because I'vegir noone physically present to commiserate with. We are married - 23 years now - and pretty much happily so. He just drives me CrAzY when he says, right before pointing out my mistakes, "Oh, I thought you should have..." But if that's the biggest complaint I have, then I count myself pretty lucky.

But I do appreciate all of your responses! Made a kinda crappy morning much better!

 

[BreanneRN]

And you can suggest that the pie you can make with your rolling pin will be much nicer than being hit over the head with it... You know what they say about men and their stomachs... so close to their heart and all...