Another loss, it really needs to stop now

[EweSheep]

 

[annie3001]

sending good vibes your way!!

 

[sourland]

My Mom who lived to be 97 said that the hardest part of aging was not the infirmities. It was the fact that so many of your friends had predeceased you.

 

[WriterofWords]

Thank you, I really am feeling overwhelmed right now, and I just have this feeling it's not going to get any easier very soon. I appreciate your thoughts and prayers; it's a big part of what is getting me through this period.

 

[equine623]

If it helps my family just went through a flu - like virus with a high fever, achy, sore throat, cough....but it runs its course in a few days and with rest and fluids I bet he'll be on the mend quickly. And I'm sorry for all the loss. That's something I fully understand...supposedly time helps but I think all it does it give you more ways to learn to cope with the losses, it doesn't actually make them hurt any less.

Hang in there

 

[gritsar]

 

[nop169]

My wife & I buried both her parents, my grandmother & aunt (mothers to me) all within the first 10 years of our marriage. All were from cancer & all were long, drawn out, debilitating illnesses. We were primary care givers to all but my grandmother. All of their cancers lasted from start to finish a total of 3 years more or less. It began after our 2nd year of marriage - we were 22 & 23. We also went through infertility & 2 failed adoptions in this 10 year period. Life can be so hard & faith can be so elusive at times. I really feel your pain and although there is nothing I can say that will make your pain less - I will say that the lessons learned from each precious life of each person we lost were well worth the pain & stress of their illnesses. We all hurt when we loose someone but try to focus on the good that the person taught you. You never get over the loss - time makes it bearable but it never goes completely away. We learned to thank God for the chance to know some truely beautiful people during their brief lives. The pain & sorrow was great but the lessons learned about faith, love, sharing & yes, even death were profound & lasting. Due to our experiences, we feel that you truely cannot share in someones life unless you also share their death. It is a painful journey - but the peace granted to those left behind was complete. No regrets, no guilt... we gave all that we could give, we held hands, we cleaned & bathed, we fed, we sang, we prayed & we cried. We shared stories, faith, family & discouragement. It uplifted us, broke us, made us stronger & helped us understand the value of a fragile life. It gave us empathy, understanding & a glimpse of God's awesome love for us.
After this period of pain, exhaustion & sorrow - God blessed us with 3 children. Allowed us to be there for friends who were now traveling down the same painful road with loved ones & taught us to value each & every day we shared with loved ones. To reach that point in life where you gain understanding & joy & peace after such trying trials is an amazing experience & enabled us to mature & build our lives. Life is a journey - one that teaches both with pain & joy - and although the lessons may be harsh at times - the benefits are great. I believe that these lessons are necessary in order for our soul to grow. To become more spiritual, to learn wisdom & to learn to share - to be able to help ourselves & others.
For me, when I am pressed upon with sorrow for those that I have lost, I try to remember the lessons learned from that person - such as the grace my aunt displayed throughout her life or my MIL teaching me her slow southern cooking! Then when the sorrow brings tears, warmth from these memories can bring laughter & joy. I encourage you to hold on to joy... try to look at it as thankfullness for knowing such a wonderful person & sharing their life rather than dwelling on the pain that they are gone. Tears bring relief from life's pain & are needed at times but joy - especially shared - brings peace. I hope that these clumsy words convey to you my meaning & in some small way help to give you some peace. Know that we will be keeping you in our thoughts & prayers during this difficult time.

 

[WriterofWords]

Your words aren't clumsy at all, thank you.

 

[turney31]

Hugs and prayers.

 

[3goodeggs]

My God give you more strength.

Prayers for Steven to heal up soon.


You know, To feel so much for others , It says a lot about you.
The more we love people, the more it hurts to lose them.