Any May/December Romances Out there? Hows it going?

[suzettex5]

This subject has been on my mind a bit lately, since my hubby turned 50 last week. There are 17 years between our ages. I often wonder if there are any other women out there like me (or men!)

Sometimes life can be weird (socially) and alot of people make assumptions about us- from thinking I was his daughter (we married when I was 25) to people calling me a gold digger. Which I find funny everytime, because he had NO gold when I met him- all we have, we have built together over the last 9 years together. Others have made comments about our kids having such an old dad, like 50 is old!! NOT!! He has a ton of spunk and energy, and is the most patient, kind, considerate guy. Its very hard to find a mature man at the age of 25- most of those guys are still sowing their oats, ya know? And dont get me started on how his family reacted at first!!

So, I was wondering, are there any BYC'ers in a similar situation? What kinds of challenges have you faced? Friendships? Family? Work issues?

 

[yotetrapper]

My husband and I have a 29 year difference. I'm 28, he's 57. Things are pretty fine for us, but we live in a very rural area, and both are pretty much loners. Neither of us really had much of a social life before, and we don't now, lol. We go to the bar occasionally, and they all know and accept us there, although I was once mistaken for his daughter. His son is the biggest challenge between us, but dont get me started on that! Other than that, everything's fine.

 

[suzettex5]

Cool! I knew I couldnt be the only one! I know there has got to be more people like us out there. Maybe they dont like to admit their ages! LOL!! Its easy to get into the loner lifestyle when you arent doing the 'socially accepted" thing. My thing is- his friends are in a different world often- diff music, clothes, activities, other friends etc. All his friends' kids are grown, and my hubby and I have small children.

Women my age mostly have hubby's in my age group-again, a whole diff generation.

My hubby gets along well with everyone, but in the end, it always seems like there is some kind of divide, or barrier to us having couple friends. IDK, maybe its just me?...

 

[ebwy]

I'm ten years older than the father of my baby. It bothers me more than him. occasionally I'll make reference to something that happened before he was born and then I feel a bit dim for not realising. Others find it strange, but we love each other. Certainly isn't a gold-digger thing, we're broke!

 

[michickenwrangler]

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Sounds like us, except for the son thing. My husband is 55, I'm 29. We're both intelligent loners in a county without a bookstore. We've been together 10 years, only married for the last 2. We have a daughter together, though he does have a daughter from a previous marriage (he's not 100% sure first daughter is his, his sister told me she isn't his daughter) but we rarely talk to her. DH is a little insecure about the age difference but since I'm not very attractive, he doesn't have to worry about younger guys taking an interest in me. My father isn't terribly thrilled about it, especially since he wanted me to marry one of my brother's friends who play NFL football, but since DH doesn't drink or party, I am happy with him.

We don't go to bars any more. When he had his motorcycle, we would go out with other biker couples occasionally, but haven't since he sold the bike. The other couple we mainly hung out with, the wife was 35 and husband was 55, 20 years apart so we all got along well. I'm so busy working and homesteading and horseback riding, I don't worry about the lack of a social life

 

[yotetrapper]

I dont want a social life, LOL. I love being a loner. I'd rather spend my time trapping, or fishing, or mushroom hunting, gardening, chickens, yard work, canning. My "social" life is this computer, and thats they way I like it!

 

[patnjess]

We have 12 years between us, he is older. I'm 31 he's 44, but I will be 32 in a couple weeks. I don't know about the age difference thing, I just thought he was hot!!! I didn't care about the age. And for once it was nice to date someone who didn't hae the intelligence of a 16 y/o. And don't get me wrong, I feel older then him....

Here is a pic of my sweet heart on our wedding day, and more current...

 

[Buff Hooligans]

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Yote wins the Age Difference Contest!!!! (I thought our 12 yrs was big - I'm 49 and he's 61.)

 

[Lunachick]

We have a 10 yr age difference. I just turned 54 and DH will be 64 in July. We're best friends and can talk about anything under the sun and we work together too. We've been married for 34 yrs. Haven't killed each other yet, so I think we're good.

 

[shadowpaints]

my hubby is gonna be 43 this year im 27. thats 16 years difference. ontop of that i LOOK young... we have been married for almost 6 years now, and i couldnt imagine my life with out him! the hard part is that my dad is only 3 years older than my hubby and my parents had a hard time with me marrying someone soooo much older than me. now my parents are OK with it . never did i think i would marry a man so much older than me. lol

i love him like crazy. he doesnt look like he is in his 40s, he still works hard and plays hard when he is home. the biggest challenge for us is that he has a 20 year old daughter, a 17 year old son . the daughter is quite abusive verbally since we got married, and so she is very difficult.

i could never really stand being around men my own age they are so immature!! like our neighbor for instance who is the same age as me but nearly burnt our barn down last nite SHEESH lol. Shawn is mych more responsible, and was wiling to settle down and be a good hubby. we argue a lot less than couples that are my age... odd i know, but we might have a medium argument once a month and a big one once a year.

here is one of our engagement pics...

and our family pics from last fall with our daughters!!

i do agree about the divide on having couple friends. couples my age still want to drink and party.... couples his are are well, boring for the most part... no offence to anyone here tho! lol

Age to me is just a number. i feel we are soul mates. at least now no one mistakes us for father daughter as much! haha!