Hi, I am thirty six and my mother is sixty two, which isn't old at all. However, she has fibromyalgia, osteo and rheumatoid arthritis, and had had both hips replaced, and will need a knee replacement soon. It is a helpless feeling to know she suffers daily and be able to do nothing to ease her pain. She often calls me crying becuase she hurts so much. She also on a really fixed income ( I have to help her out often so she can buy groceries...I am not exaclty rolling in dough myself). I am wondering at what point she will no longer be able to live alone (my dad died years ago, and I am an only child). She is fiercly independant, but I see her leaning on me more and more, and I love her so much, but it is really hard. I feel like I am responsible for her house and mine. Her problems become mine too, and it is hard to balance with two kids and a husband as well. I hope I don't sound like a jerk, but I feel overwhelmed often. Is anyone else watching their mom or dad deteriorate?