Anyone re evaluate the rest of your life with kids gone?

Discussion in 'Family Life - Stories, Pictures & Updates' started by Cowgirlgrace, Jul 31, 2011.

  1. Cowgirlgrace

    Cowgirlgrace Chillin' With My Peeps

    Wondering if anyone else has re evaluated the rest of their life after the kids are grown and wondered if the person you married, had kids and raised them with was the person you wanted to live out your days with? Did things change for the better with the spouse after raising kids or do you wonder who that person is and why you got married in the first place?
     
  2. cassie

    cassie Overrun With Chickens

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    It can go either way. Too often people get so busy raising their families they lose contact with their spouses. Now that the kids are gone, you will have to get reaquainted with one another. You will have to find out whether you like or even have anything in common with the person you are married to. Some people get closer, and some decide to cut their losses and move on.
     
  3. debilorrah

    debilorrah The Great Guru of Yap Premium Member

    I got lucky. I met Ken when his youngest was 17 and mine was 18. I am glad too. We are alone together now and loving every minute of it.
     
  4. Balefire

    Balefire Chillin' With My Peeps

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    I met David almost 11 years ago. My youngest was 11 that time, David's 16. We got married 6 years ago and after Anna left the house, we moved from Germany to PA. Now all the kids are mad @ us and only his daughter and my one son are talking to us.
    Hope that they all understand one day, that David was so homesick after all that time in Germany and I love him so much that I will follow him to the end of the world. To meet him, was the best ever happened to me.
     
  5. saddina

    saddina Internally Deranged

    May 2, 2009
    Desert, CA
    My sister went to college 3 years ago, my dad was litterly counting the months till then, so he could split (don't blame him at all, mom's a horiable mother and has made my sister so utterly co dependant she can not do anything for herself). Sadly the housing market crashed, and they're stuck in the house till they can sell, him in the guest room, her in the master suite. Now that they're "roommates" they can stand each othr better, but both of them talk about moving on once the house is sold. they've been married 23 years.
     
  6. ChickenAlgebra

    ChickenAlgebra Chillin' With My Peeps

    Mar 14, 2011
    Our oldest just turned 18 and headed for college, due with twins in mid September. I still love everything about DH and more so than when we got married. I'll see how I feel in another 18 years.
     
  7. Czech's_chicks

    Czech's_chicks Chillin' With My Peeps

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    I was having MAJOR empty nest syndrome. The thought of a quite house was depressing. I even sunk into a depression. Then I met the most wonderful man in the world and am sort of starting over. He has small children, mine were grown. We are only a few years apart but I started a little bit younger than he did - perhaps this is why it was so hard when mine moved on in life???

    Anyway, I a 2 month old grandchild and my youngest step children are 6 year old twins.
     
  8. Chickerdoodle13

    Chickerdoodle13 The truth is out there...

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    Now that my brother and I are both away at college, my parents have been doing a lot together. They miss us terribly, but I think they enjoy having time to themselves. They do a lot of bed and breakfast trips and I like seeing them happy. They've been married 25 years now.
     
  9. Kelly G

    Kelly G It's like herding cats!

    One down, one to go!

    We love our kids, don't get me wrong....but we can't WAIT to be "on our own!"

    Our youngest is almost 16....two years will fly :)
     
  10. SarahFair

    SarahFair Chillin' With My Peeps

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    Monroe, Ga
    Our kids are still really young (5 & 3) but my SO and I usually try to do things together without kids once a week.. just to stay in touch.
     

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