Here's mine: This past Friday we (DH & I) went to his cousins funeral. She was only 62.
The story: Her mother (Dh's aunt) left home at an early age and married the first guy who charmed her. (Her father was a very strict Italian patriarch type of guy) (daughter not allowed to do ANYTHING) So she's found a way out.
They guy she married was a hoodlum/NYC cop that got away with everything. He even had a second family with children.
and a lot of them had similar family names.
He was abusive towards his wife and daughter (cousin who died)
The cousin wasn't allowed to leave the front stoop when she was a teenager. My hubby lived in the same building and he was the same age and always felt for her cause she wasn't allowed to do anything, so a lot of times he would hang out with her on the front stoop with his friends. When they went off to do something, she was left behind.
Her dad was a drunk and became even more abusive. The daughter got it, and so did the wife. It went on and on.
I met this cousin when I first went out with DH. 1975 !! She was intelligent, wanted to make you dinner right away, skittish, shaky but very friendly. And Needy. She would come down to the Jersey Shore to get away from it all, and we would show her a good time.
Years went by and we would hear this & that about her. Abusive boyfriends, engagements that you knew weren't sincere. She would come home now & then with marks on her neck and bruises on her limbs. Always a lost soul. At one point she had a daughter. She is now 23 yrs old. That is another story.
This daughter is a lovely person. And a few years back lost contact with her mother. (DH's cousin) No one knew the where abouts of the cousin. Daughter went on to work and go to college and find a life.
The cousin altogether disappeared; we would hear that she was found in the basement of abandoned buildings with the druggies and the homeless. Two years go by and everyone thought she died or was murdered or something, no one knew!
The daughter hunted her down and found her as a homeless person with a whole group of souls living on the S.I. Ferry - for 2 whole years. When she was found, covered in filth with lice and who knows what, she ended up with her mother (Dh's aunt) she lived a quiet life with her mother in an adult community til a few weeks ago.
Then she fell in the bathroom and was screaming for help (her mother was in the hospital with pneumonia)
A neighbor heard and called an ambulance. The cousin was diagnosed with brain cancer and there was nothing they could do. Too far in advance.
Anyway she died a painful death and her mother couldn't do anything for her. It was very sad.
I have a question though: (for anyone who read this whole thing!) What do you say when you go to a viewing and the Mom asks: "How do you think she looks?" Does she look alright? Ack
I said she looks like she's at peace. How do you answer a question like that?