You sound just like my neighbor! His wife won't let him either, so he comes down the hill and plays with mine. She has begun to warm to them since they will come running to anyone in the hopes of FOOD! My husband said no too, but I did it anyway. Now he picks up chickens here and there and carries them around telling them how someday he's gonna get rid of them all.
They don't believe him, so they never care. My seven year old has gotten over 100 chickens at present and I support him 100% My husband has grudgingly built 4 of our coops. I think he rather enjoys that part. He likes to show them and the chickens off to everyone that comes out to our farm. He has also noticed a drastic drop in bugs in and around the horse yard and throughout the hay field after it's cut.
My husband also said NO about the pig. Now he can't wait to eat him and always stops to give Hammy a good scratch and a handful of weeds. He said the same about the ducks and geese, but now admits that they do a terrific job in the garden and thinks we should have gotten more so he never has to weed.
Take your wife to a place that has chickens where you can sit and watch them. They have very unique personalities and are a riot to watch. It's much better than watching TV. Once she starts softening have her help pick out breeds/chicks. Find ones that will fit both your needs. You could try checking out poultry shows or 4H fairs to see some of the different birds. She may find one she likes. My son found a silkie at one last year that just loved to cuddle. We don't have a silkie yet, but only time will tell.
My husband also said NO about the pig. Now he can't wait to eat him and always stops to give Hammy a good scratch and a handful of weeds. He said the same about the ducks and geese, but now admits that they do a terrific job in the garden and thinks we should have gotten more so he never has to weed.