Asperger's anyone??

Discussion in 'Family Life - Stories, Pictures & Updates' started by texasgal, Sep 28, 2009.

  1. texasgal

    texasgal Brood with an Attitude

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    I have a wonderful DD17.

    Extremely intelligent
    Somewhat nerdy
    Very introverted
    An admitted Social Phobic
    Some obsessive behaviors

    .. with some other quirky behaviors.

    As I was researching to see if they could all be related, I found Asperger's SCREAMING at me.

    I kept saying "This is my daughter"

    Even more so as I read the differences in Aspie boys and girls ..

    Anybody else have experience with Asperger's ..
     
  2. Buff Hooligans

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  3. kagedgoddess

    kagedgoddess Chillin' With My Peeps

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    A cousin of mine has it. i am not all that close cuz he lives in a different state, but i can say, he IS really smart, but fascinated by odd things. like he has a collection of cd's becuase he likes the way the spines line up with the production co logo. and he has to buy them Used at certain places. they way he talks is kinda odd too. but in my family we have a few brainiacs, so we can deal with him pretty well. he is just defeintly kinda immature for his age... i mean like not interested in the same things his peers are. i find him fun to be around, lol. we went to the park with the family last time i was there and he was telling me how he didnt feel safe to go on the Steel playsets cuz he didnt know the load limits of that metal, LOL. he s like 90 lbs! i feel bad tho for what he must go thru at school.
     
  4. quail newbie

    quail newbie Chillin' With My Peeps

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    My younger brother has it. They said it was ADHD until he was 16. The ritalin (sp?) just made it worse. One day the doctor asked him what he eats. He has Captain Crunch for breakfast and lunch every day for 2 months and was very upset when they ran out. Eating the same foods daily for months at a time is a big sign that you have aspergers. They took him off the meds and he became far less violent. He also was kicked out of school because when he would misbehave and get in trouble he would react like he was happy. Another sign of aspregers is not having the normal reaction (with facial expressions) and after 6 months with a specialist this was helped too. They sat him in front of a mirror and said happy and he would have to make the expression, then sad etc. It's tough but once it's diagnosed it makes it alot easier.
     
  5. GrayDragon

    GrayDragon Chillaxin

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    One of my hobbies seems to attract a lot of people with aspergers.

    One of the things to keep in mind is people with aspergers tend not to 'get' social cues. This is why so many are social outcasts. My friend Greg absolutely cannot read body language. All through high school (and college) girls thought he was a 'creep' because he didn't understand a girl's 'reject' signals, so he'd try to keep conversations going while the girl was desperately seeking a polite way to escape. Subtlety just completely bypassed him, he'd have to be outright told 'I don't like you, go away' before he'd get it.


    Fortunately, he found himself a very understanding woman who realizes he doesn't get 'hints', he has to actually be told.

    So saying 'sweetheart, the trash needs to go out', doesn't click in his head as 'take the trash out', she has to actually say, 'take the trash out'.

    People who don't understand thinks she's bossy and controlling because she does have to be so blunt. At least, until they get to know him and realize his issues.

    Some folks are just wired a bit different. Other than his complete inability to understand puns and sarcasm, he's an awesome guy.
     
  6. texasgal

    texasgal Brood with an Attitude

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    Thanks for the replies .. I have also read the threads as directed .. Lot's of good advice and experience ..

    Thanks!
     
  7. breezy

    breezy Chillin' With My Peeps

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    My husband of 26 years has it. We just found out a couple of years ago. Understanding why he acts the way he does sure made a huge difference
     
  8. texasgal

    texasgal Brood with an Attitude

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    I talked to my DD17 last night .. she had heard of it .. but not really researched it. I think she was receptive, seemed upbeat .. but probably skeptical.

    I did notice that she spent some time looking it up online and reading from a forum for a bit .. so she's curious.

    She is such a great young lady .. I just want her to be happy and successful in her life.

    It can only be a good thing if she knows, and is receptive to learning some coping skills, etc.

    Thanks for hearing me out, guys!
     
  9. TennesseeTruly

    TennesseeTruly Chillin' With My Peeps

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    My 8 year old grandson was just diagnosed with it in July. We're so at a loss right now. We're raising him and he has so many problems and this was just something else piled on top of everything else.

    I wish your daughter all the luck in the world. HUGS to you both!

    Laurie
     
  10. TennesseeTruly

    TennesseeTruly Chillin' With My Peeps

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    duplicate post
     
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