bridal showers and weddings

[cow_girl]

Im my neck of the woods, a Jack and Jill is another term for Buck and Doe... or Stag and Doe.. the party that gets thrown for the bride and groom to make money... people usually pay 10$ a head to get in and that includes a late night snack / band... why would you charge 35$.. or is that for a couple..??... as for inviting guests ... the people you invite to your bridal shower etc. should be very close friends / family, so yes, they probably should be invited to the wedding... as for the Bachelor/ette parties... that can be anyone... usually only friends, but family if theyre your age group and you get along - as things can get pretty wild...

also! - you will get people showing up to your buck and doe that dont even know you, theyre just there to drink and have a good time, so in that case, no you dont need to invite everyone that shows up at the buck&doe...

 

[NRacine]

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But isn't that what happens at the wedding?

 

[cow_girl]

< But isn't that what happens at the wedding? >


Im not sure I fully understand what you mean???

 

[redhen]

I never had a wedding shower.. I refused to have one.
I also think they are kinda tacky and greedy...
Getting together with the girls to have a few drinks or something... thats one thing..
but to charge cover charges and all that other crap to make money... nah...
I wont go to one either.. I just say i cant make it.

 

[NRacine]

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You know, food, music, beer, sometimes people you don't know...that's a wedding reception!

 

[OccamsTazer]

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I'm with you on that! I'm getting married in June and I have expressly forbidden both families from attempting any sort of shower thing. Tacky.

 

[cluckcluck42]

I want to have a small wedding with close friends and family, so we want to have a stag and doe to let everyone thats not invited to the wedding know that they are not forgotten and to have a party to celebrate with everyone. I just can't afford to invite every person I would like to. I would never dream of charging admission. I find it tacky unless there is a band or food or something tangible being exchanged for that money. It's such bad taste to expect people who arent invited to get you gifts/help with the money.

 

[chickaddict]

Thank you for your wonderful responses. I was beginning to feel guilty for planning NOT to attend. I felt that $20.00 per person and $35.00 per couple was far too much to pay when this is a 2nd marriage for both. I felt this to be tacky and RUDE.

However the bride to be IS a good friend of mine, and while this is her second marriage it will be her first wedding. I found it tacky to expect people to pay this for a shower of any kind especially when most of us have not been invited to the wedding.

I also find it very upsetting that money is being raised for someone who is still collecting an annuity from a 2 million dollar lottery win, when most of the people who are expected to pay for this party are barely scratching by on pennies.

I do have a ready and acceptable excuse not to attend -

The day of the party happens to be my birthday.