My older brother invited my parents to his home for Mother's Day and did not invite me and my family. We always spend Mother's Day, Father's Day, Easter, Thanksgiving and Christmas together. He is my only sibling and the only times we've been separated for any of these holidays was when he was in the service and overseas.
My mom's mom died rather suddenly just 6 weeks before Mother's Day, so this was already a very difficult time for her. When she confessed to me how hurt she was that she and my father accepted his invitation, not knowing that I wasn't invited, I decided to say something about it. I don't always communicate effectively in person when I'm emotional, so I opted to send him an email. It wasn't long and drawn out or meant to be especially hurtful, but I did tell him that it was inexcusable, given the circumstances. He sent me back a very long, personally hurtful and down right nasty email a few days later and we've not spoken since.
I do not intend to ever speak of this incident again and I really think I'm ok living without speaking to him at all, but I know that will bother our parents greatly. I do love him and I'd do anything for him if he needed my help, but I haven't liked him very much for the past several years and I have had the feeling in that time that he feels the same way, either about me or my husband.
I have given it much thought and prayer, but I'm still dumbfounded by the whole thing.
My mom's mom died rather suddenly just 6 weeks before Mother's Day, so this was already a very difficult time for her. When she confessed to me how hurt she was that she and my father accepted his invitation, not knowing that I wasn't invited, I decided to say something about it. I don't always communicate effectively in person when I'm emotional, so I opted to send him an email. It wasn't long and drawn out or meant to be especially hurtful, but I did tell him that it was inexcusable, given the circumstances. He sent me back a very long, personally hurtful and down right nasty email a few days later and we've not spoken since.
I do not intend to ever speak of this incident again and I really think I'm ok living without speaking to him at all, but I know that will bother our parents greatly. I do love him and I'd do anything for him if he needed my help, but I haven't liked him very much for the past several years and I have had the feeling in that time that he feels the same way, either about me or my husband.
I have given it much thought and prayer, but I'm still dumbfounded by the whole thing.