brother and sister in law rant.

[AngieChick]

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I agree. It's hard work taking care of children all day, especially at those ages. In many ways, my husband had it easier going to a nice quiet office all day and being able to focus.

I think you need to distance yourself from the situation. You worry about you, not about her. Though it may be frustrating, you can't control everyone else's relationships.

As to being able to see your niece and nephew, you will need to be nice. I wouldn't let someone who was angry and full of hate for me be around my children. In order to get the privilege back, you will need to work at being civil. Fake til you make it. Don't the kids matter enough to you to swallow your pride and keep a cordial relationship with her?

Making your brother choose to either hang out with you or with his wife and kids is a losing battle, and is it one that you would even really want to win? No matter what you think of her.

 

[babylady4]

Cordial at this point sounds impossible. Just walk away and do not rise to the occasion. Send the cards and so on my cut yourself away from the drama, you do not need it.

Thought of going to Bel-rea Institute for Vet Tech? Might be a good idea to move SEVERAL states away to pursue your Vet Tech education. Get the loans/grants whatever you need and go.

I have my own evil SIL with two devil spawn and thankfully never see any of them. There is no trying to have a relationship with somebody who does not want it.

Good luck!!!!


BTW, how is she watching other kids if she is on bedrest???????? No WAY she is properly watching other kids sitting in bed all day long.

 

[lovesduckies]

i did try to apologize and be civil for the sake of the kids and she is just the 5 letter word that starts with a b.. i shouldn't be the one apologizing anyway. we BOTH should. what she said to me was way worse than anything could have said. but i did swallow my pride for the sake of the kids. she lets my dad see them. he said YYYYYYAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAYYYYYYYYYYYYY worse than me. she's even mad at my grandma for no reason.. notice it's all of the women in my brothers life. and making him chose between us and her was my grandpa because he is sick of her and her trying to control everything.

uhm i am not sure she is babysitting right now. she could be doing more constructive things. she has expesive taste and makes my brother world 2 jobs so he can pay for everything. she gave up a good paying job at a photo studio and free babysitting... to go baby sit.....

 

[Sonoran Silkies]

Honey, you need to stop planning their lives--it is THEIR choices. If your brother wants to complain that he works two jobs, that is his business and his choice and his to complain about, not yours; from what you've said, I doubt he has complained to you--he's too busy defending his wife from his family. Sounds like she may have quit work to be a stay at home mom; this is a choice some families make, and while you may not value it, a lot of folks do.

Take note of the things you would want to do differently in your own life--that is where you have control--not brother's life or sil's or even niece & nephew.