Childrens health and poultry

[mrs.67]

I just talked to my son and told him that he must get along with her for my Grandsons sake.

I have also thought that perhaps she may have some underlying issues. I would love to talk to her, we have been close since she was 15 she in now 21,but, she won't talk. I say something and she doesn't even look my way.

I would want nothing more for them to get through this, they are both young but love this child so much.

Its just the issues of birds and even my dog. I pay a fortune on vet bills and flea pills. Its just way too much to go on about. My fear is that my birds wich make me feel peaceful and give me laughs could honestly be used against my own son.

She once got upset when I had him because he got a mosquito bite. How can I avoid that??

 

[Msbear]

I have a two year old and am finally getting back to being an individual. Between breastfeeding and crying baby and hanging onto mommy, I felt like I was never going to be Erin again. I am 30yrs old. I could never imagine having this much stress when I was younger....(assuming they are in their young 20's or so)

I agree with previous poster she may be having some depression issues and feeling insecure. In a few months, she'll be begging you for help. Just try to be supportive of both your son and his girlfriend. (She is apart of your family too, now They will work things out. Just let her know, you only want the best for baby and you hope she will see that.

As for the chickens, it has been scientifically proven that kids that grew up around livestock and house pets are much better immunity to allergens and have overall better health.

I let my son hold our chickens, kiss them and our dogs and he puts everything in his mouth

I just keep thinkin...go ahead boy, build those immunities!!!!

right now I have a cold and a mild sinus infection. My hubby just got over it. Wyatt still shows no signs of slowing down

edited to say: my son was hit hard by mosquitoes this year too...unavoidable unless you keep them indoors all summer She's just lashing out. Stay calm and don't give her any more ammo

 

[patandchickens]

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Vigorously agree.

Good luck,

Pat

 

[Morning Dove]

mrs.67 :

Thank You Morning Dove, I was crying as I read that.

I love him soo much and would never do anything to harm him. But, yes I was fired for holding him too much and she says it makes it difficult for her when she gets home with him.

She is always going on about my birds. I wash and have alcohol gel everywhere. But thats going to be part of her argument against him coming here.

I am to assume farmers should not have children based on her arguments.. I just don't know what to say when the lawyers ask questions. My guess is they will want to inspect my home. Thats not a problem , my home is clean ,but my birds are staying.

(((HUGS))

I'm so sorry you are going threw this!

Difficult? That's just her word for "I have better things to do than hold my baby." Please, print out my post and give it to your lawyer. I'll send you a private message with my email address, and if your lawyer would like to use my statements here, or has any other questions, feel free to give him my email address.

Good Luck and God Bless!
Dove​

 

[Morning Dove]

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Vigorously agree.

Good luck,

Pat

I also agree!

Dove

 

[cthrash1]

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I agree totally...lol... My kids are probably immune to more illnesses than a lot of kids. I always let them play and get dirty and have fun...And my son has probably had just about every kind of creepy crawly in his mouth amongst other things at one point, unless he was squishing them between his fingers. Dirt cakes and dirt coco were the best! I remember those from when I was little. And no matter how many times I ask him to wash his hands before handling food they are never my kind of clean, but I tell you what, he doesn't get sick hardly at all...Neither does my daughter although she was more girly and didn't get dirty as much. You have to let them be kids and let them build immunities naturally.

 

[I have WHAT in my yard?]

I have seen this before especially in young working mothers. You have her baby all day and inevitably the baby becomes attached to you. When she comes home it is fussy because it wants her full attention which she cannot give because she is trying to get chores done and make dinner etc, and the baby misses you!

Accepting that your baby loves some one else, as much as they love you, requires a great deal of emotional maturity. Really young mothers, especially first time, especially when they may be in post partum depression AND struggling in their relationship?!?!.....

Try to see it from her perspective for a moment and you'd see that she is probably threatened and frightened and insecure. You may not be able to fix all that, but you can avoid making it worse!

I watched another family struggle with this and the gma got so freaked about losing the baby that she panicked and tried to force the mother to let her see her. All it did was make the mother more afraid and defensive and it just got worse from there.

Can you talk to this girl's family?? She sounds like she needs support.

 

[mrs.67]

I want to thank all of you so much for your feedback. I no longer feel I am dirty or putting the baby in harms way.. The rest will be up to them , all I can do is offer support.


Dove I will pass your message on , again Thanks!!