Daddy Issues... LONG RANT!

[SterlingAcres]

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Heehe..i think i like you!!..

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Me too.

 

[ChooksinIowa]

I agree with those who have posted to say...time to take your life by the horns and leave him behind. Being a biological father doesn't mean that he can be what a true father is, or should be. Kelly's real father barely speaks to him, and yet he and his second wife have HER kids over all the time for meals, etc. It's like Kelly doesn't exist. For a long time, this bothered him, but now he doesn't give a darn, and he'd rather not be involved with that side of his "family" anyway because they are not family by the true sense of the word. Blood family isn't necessarily true family. There are plenty of adopted people in this world who can attest to that!

To me, you sound bright, motivated, and although you have had some trials, you seem to be well adjusted now. It is time to close that chapter of your life and move on to what you want the future to be. He's not going to come around anytime soon, and you don't want to waste time hoping or wishing he would. Follow your dreams and your passions and make your future what you want it to be. There are so many opportunities for the taking, and you will miss them if you focus on the past. If I were you, I'd delete his texts and change my number. He's being selfish and unkind to you just to make himself feel good. That is wrong, wrong, wrong. Time for you to deprive him of that opportunity. The most important love is the love you give yourself. Take care of you, be the best you can be, and appreciate yourself for who you are. You don't need his love or acceptance to do that. You be in control - don't let him be in control. He doesn't deserve any control.

Sending empowering thoughts!
Claire

 

[mamaKate]

Be strong. Learn to love yourself. Athough forgiveness is necessary for your healing, it's a good idea to forgive from a distance. You owe him nothing. Make him as small a part of your life as you can. It's okay to not open mail. A word of warning: be very careful about the guys you date. It's scary common to pick someone who makes you feel like he did. We're all pulling for you. It sounds like your perpective is pretty healthy. Lots of love, Kate

 

[LittleYellowOne]

*huggles everyone* Thanks for all the support! I really appreciate it, and am glad to see that some people know where I'm coming from, I just get so frustrated that he still has all this power over me. I know I should just forget him and move on, but he's my "daddy", I want him to like me and be proud of me, but I've been told numerous times that what I think of me is more important.

I used to get really upset because he'd call my sister all the time, on holidays and such, and not want to talk to me... I just wish I knew where I went wrong ya know?

And unfortunately I already made the mistake of dating guys LIKE him... My last boyfriend called me fat, told me that other girls were prettier than me, and tried to tell me how to dress and style my hair...

Needless to say he's long gone now...

At least not all the men in my life are like that! I adore my grandfather, my uncles, my friends, heck, even my stepdad is better than he is, and I'm not too fond of him sometimes~