Darlin

[gritsar]

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Too true.

Tell them they can kiss your grits!

Actually I would tell them to give up being dang yankees (the kind that come down & forget to go back) and just go back to being yankees.

 

[math ace]

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My children answer each other with "yeah". but to me it is always "yes ma'am".
That too is a "southern" thing.

I, too, use sweetie and darlin, BUT ALWAYS with a younger recipent.
It is a way too casual / familiar endearment to use with those who are older than you.

RESPECT means that you should honor others feelings.
If they are offended by your use of "darlin", then you should respect their wishes.
Legally, the law does recognize it as a form of sexual harassment.
There are MANY women who have been called "darlin" and not in a complimentary / non-degrading manner.

 

[Royd]

It's a Southern thing, and when said by a woman, with a beautiful southern drawl, it makes you feel warm and fuzzy all over.....Sorry Yanks, you miss out.

 

[trilyn]

Hmm, since I live in the North, y'all could call me a Yankee! LOL But I am forever using honey, darling or precious (precious-for children) when I speak to people. Don't really give a flying fig who likes it or not, since I never mean any disrespect.

I really think most of society could use a chill pill and need to get off their high horses and really consider the source of who is saying what to whom. Okay...off my soapbox, God knows I could go on for hours on this topic!

 

[Dunkopf]

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I have pretty much the same opinion. I don't like it when someone younger than me calls me "honey", etc. I don't get visually offended, but it does annoy me. Anyone older than me saying it is fine.

When someone is younger than you and uses the term it is offensive to some degree. We live in Colorado and the term is not used here. A waitress that was around 20 or so used on my DW and I. It just seemed like something a nurse would use with someone that was incapacitated and she was being kind to. It made me feel old. I'm 52 and like to feel like I'm not old even if the AARP magazine shows up in my mailbox unwelcomed.

 

[Birdcrazy]

I agree with Rozzie completely. Not many people say that kinda thing here though... older people I don't mind so much or people I know, but generally I can't stand it. Also hate it when there are people calling me 'love' or 'lovey' like when we go to fuel up...
Its not really being rude, just that strangers calling me stuff like that kinda ticks me off. I never say anything but it does annoy me..

 

[Dunkopf]

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My children answer each other with "yeah". but to me it is always "yes ma'am".
That too is a "southern" thing.

I, too, use sweetie and darlin, BUT ALWAYS with a younger recipent.
It is a way too casual / familiar endearment to use with those who are older than you.

RESPECT means that you should honor others feelings.
If they are offended by your use of "darlin", then you should respect their wishes.
Legally, the law does recognize it as a form of sexual harassment.
There are MANY women who have been called "darlin" and not in a complimentary / non-degrading manner.

When I was a kid, we lived in Denver and visited my grandparents in Alexandria La. They insisted we call them Ma'am and Sir. It was very weird for us. Then my Dad who was a Yank would get it in his head that we should call him and my mother the same. Fortunately it only lasted a few days. Like you said it's just a southern thing.

 

[easttxchick]

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My children answer each other with "yeah". but to me it is always "yes ma'am".
That too is a "southern" thing.

I, too, use sweetie and darlin, BUT ALWAYS with a younger recipent.
It is a way too casual / familiar endearment to use with those who are older than you.

RESPECT means that you should honor others feelings.
If they are offended by your use of "darlin", then you should respect their wishes.
Legally, the law does recognize it as a form of sexual harassment.
There are MANY women who have been called "darlin" and not in a complimentary / non-degrading manner.

When I was a kid, we lived in Denver and visited my grandparents in Alexandria La. They insisted we call them Ma'am and Sir. It was very weird for us. Then my Dad who was a Yank would get it in his head that we should call him and my mother the same. Fortunately it only lasted a few days. Like you said it's just a southern thing.

Actually, down here, calling people ma'am or sir isn't a "Southern" thing at all-it's a respect thing.

The only problem with it is, once YOU start getting called ma'am or sir, you think, "Gee, I must be getting old."

 

[sourland]

Slightly off topic from a Yankee. Once held a door open for a woman. She walked through and said "Thank you." I replied "You're welcome mam." She whirled around and snarled "Don't call me mam." Without thinking, I responded "Would you prefer b*tch." She gave me a big smile and walked away.

 

[Moxiechick]

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