DD started speech therapy..

[MeatKing]

So I have 2 DD, one 5, can talk circles around most people.. Very efficative commnicater..


DD who just turned 3 is stutering...

So called speech therapy a few months ago.. She's had part assement at daycare center.. ( They travel to preschool's)
Anywhoo, got to meet with her today.. Her assement is still not done cause DD is sooo shy... And won't talk too much in front of her...

So got our homework, it's mostley things we already do, but with other DD involved... We really need to carve the time for one . on one time.. Think that would help way more.. 10 min One on One, has got to be better then a family venture... Please keep in mind we live in sticks and hubby is away al ot.. So really the whole thing depends on me, working full time, etc.. Like so many other familes..

How/Where do I carve the time from..
She needs it, I need to give it.. With other DD5 helping us.. It's just not quality time.. Can I ask a sitter to take DD 5 with little sis stuck here with me, The back lash would be aweful.. As both kids love sitter.. And I really can't afforsd $10.00 per night of homework time for little one..

Thinking maybe to pay sitter to come here for 1 hr. to help me per night.. Then more then one thing gets done?

I don't know... What to most we'll say single families do when one needs extra help? (I"m just saying single fam. cause hubbie works long hrs, and really I'm in it alone...

Would love to hear what other people do, make older one do ?????? For 10 min, and not interupt, she's only 5....
Am open to any suggestions/stories... I'm sure I will learn from it all

Thank-You for your time!!

 

[WingingIt]

Two of mine have had ST. BTW, you are going to be so wonderfully amazed at how it helps her and it won't take long to see progress once she gets comfortable with the therapist.

OK, back to your question. Does older sister have a favorite movie you could put on for her? Or a handheld game that she 'gets' to play while you and younger sis do 'sis's homework.' I don't think you have to find a way to pay a sitter. Even if you just let the older one play pretend cooking with your kitchen utensils and pans or dress up with some old clothes of yours. Or, if you have any neighbors that you trust that have kiddos, maybe one of them could watch her outside for a bit while her kids play, too. Then you could return the favor by watching them for a hour on the weekend or something.

 

[BarkerChickens]

I agree with having the sitter there to help. I was a really bad stutterer at that age (through 7 yrs old) and speech therapy was the only thing that helped me. I was worse around people that I didn't know, which made it a pain for my mom.

You sure do have your hands full!!

 

[Sonoran Silkies]

Several options,

trade babysitting with a friend
find a friend of your 5 year old whose house you are willing to have her visit. Need to return the play date favours, though.

And the big mature choice is to set teh 5 year old down and explain that her little sister needs extra help with her speech. That while you are working with Little Sister, Big Sister needs to be ver grown-up and play on her own, interupting only in an emergency (be sure to define exactly what that is--that the cat barfing on the sidewalk, a knee is slightly scraped or wanting a cookie is NOT an emergency; that something is on fire, a bone is broken, is drowning, or there is gushing blood IS an emergency). Make sure to spend one-on-one tome with the older girl, and be sure to explain to her how she can best help her sister (probably NOT talking for her, but being patient and letting Little Sister say what she wants to on her own). Be sure to praise Big Sister for all her efforts to help Little Sister, and for being grown-up enough to give you the time to help wihtout interupting. Don;t gust too much, but make sure she knows you appreciate her efforts. If she overhears you bragging to omeone else about how helpful she is, that is even better than direct praise.

 

[CityGirlintheCountry]

Put the 5 yo to bed 15 minutes before the 3yo and let that be special time with mommy.

 

[bluesub]

Couple of ideas...

Get some books out of the library (that the 5 year old can look at independently) and save them for special quiet time while you work with the three year old.

Find some workbooks or worksheets or coloring pages (that the 5 year old can do independently) and have it be "homework" while you are working with the three year old.

Sometimes I drill math facts with my 9 year old during breakfast, could you work on some of the therapy during meals? Meals are a little quieter around my house than the rest of the day.

I have a husband who works a lot of hours so I know what it is like to juggle helping with homework and keeping others quiet...

 

[Carols Clucks]

Having done ST with my son for years.....

I would pick a special movie or tv show for the older child and let her enjoy her show as her own "private time"

Then sit with the younger one and relax for a a few minutes and then "work" with the younger one, so that she feels no pressure and you feel relaxed and not rushed.

 

[MeatKing]

Thank-You everyone for your ideas

I really apperciate it, when I feel like I'm on the end of the rope...

I ended up keeping big sister involved in games/ activites... Nobodies the wiser, just some more special time with Mom

Big sister is more helping then hindering, what a surprise.. I will at some point as the homework becomes harder.. I"m asssuming it will... Have to do the movie thing, with her or special books...

I can't do the trade sitting thing with a friend as we live in the sticks, and the before bed thing won't work as my kids are "moring people" and in bed/grumpy at bed time.. So not an ideal time too teach her anything...

Thank-You all!!!

 

[punk-a-doodle]

I have a slight stutter that comes and goes. For me, it gets bad when I am nervous (especially when around people I don't know, or if I am emotionally upset/angry), or when I am very tired (I have had insomnia since a young age). Seeing a sleep specialist to treat insomnia helped as an adult, as did going on medication for my severe social anxiety. So, finding the root of the stutter may help to find the best and most direct treatment (ie. less money spent). I never tried speech therapy, so I am unsure if they work to find the cause of the stutter. Would seem logical that they do though.

 

[MeatKing]

Thank-you punk-a-doodle,
Our speech patholigist, so far as not really talked about root of problem.. Just that 80% of kids that start stuttering at this age stop..
She did say they don't really know why people stutter, but did offer things too try..
Right now with her young age, I don't think it's a when she gets nerous.. Cause she is only doing it when she is comfortable with the person.. The more she loves you, the more she stutters.. So am hoping that these things work.. Am open to anyone suggestions about things that may help a stutterer,,, I have just noticed she, I think may stutter to hold my attention longer..

Ei, I'm making lunches, making breakfest.. And If I stop everything get down to her level.. When she's trying to say something. She will get it out faster.. So I have decided get up 30 min. early and take more time to talk..
So that is my new coarse of action... With other DD, you could talk to her while doing everything, she was happy..and could still talk circles around people ... The Second may do better if I really get down to her level.. Anything that can help..