Dealing With Comments From Those Who Don't Like Animals

LovedMyAlydar

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I am not sure how to address these folks. And some of their comments are downright rude.

We have 5 dogs and watch my daughters dog while she is living where she can't have her for a total of 6. Hers is a Jack Russell and we have a Sheltie, 3 Dachshunds and a Great Pyrennes pup. We have 4 cats, 2 Holland Lops (1 just had a litter of 5 purebred babies), 2 geese, 2 ducks and 17 chickens(8 are bantams).

I have 3 bantam roosters, 5 bantam hens. I have 2 standard roosters and 7 standard hens. These guys will start laying about September or so. I have a pair of ducks and a pair of geese. They will no doubt start laying next spring.

Yes, some might think it's alot but we take care of all our critters, they are all healthy and well fed.

So I get comments from some folks telling me we aren't real farmers, that we have toys not chickens and rabbits, that we are wasting our money on the dogs and that unless an animal provides food value it is a luxury not a necessity. I never claimed to be a "real" farmer. I grew up a city kid in Detroit who loved animals and the country. My mom had little critters, geese, chickens, ducks, goats, etc., when we moved to the country when I was 16. I worked on horse farms from that time on until my mid 20's. So no, I am not a farmer per say and probably have what most would call a hobby farm. We have only 3 acres, but to us it's heaven after living in either apartments or in a townhouse next to the interstate and a bypass for almost 12 years. My hubby on the other hand grew up on a farm working his butt off from the time he was a small kid setting tobacco, working with cattle and horses and chickens. He had to tend gardens, house tobacco, etc. He enjoys the critters as much as I do and is usually the person who says to go ahead and get the darn thing if I want it. He loves the dogs so he has a way of finding them. Most are rehomed critters who had owners who no longer wanted them or didn't understand the breed (all our little wiener dogs).

I have been told, the ducks and geese are unnecessary, that the bantams are toys and useless, that I need to cull all my roosters and that the breeds of hens I have don't produce enough eggs to make them worth their feeding. Seriously? So what? I am not asking them for money or to pay my bills. But for some reason they seem to think they need to comment on my lifestyle. My son raises rabbits as a hobby and it keeps him busy. He makes a little money on the side and enjoys going to swap meets and taking care of the bunnies. He isn't out getting into trouble like alot of 16 year olds. But they say since we don't eat the rabbits they are toys. He likes breeding for color and type and has very nice bunnies. His male is from a State Fair winning buck. Really nice. Not all rabbits need to be eaten. But yet we hear it time and again.

My critters keep my sane in this crazy world. I sit out there with them in a swing and enjoy watching them interact and play around. Our male rabbit likes to go "bowling for chickens". Really pretty funny because he will scatter some and then they chase him. He does the same with the dogs. Cheap entertainment I guess. But it keeps things simple and happy. So why can't others leave us be? Does anybody else deal with snide comments from acquaintances or family who don't like your lifestyle? Other than being rude in return what can I do to get them to just let me be? I know what I would like to say and it wouldn't be nice, but two wrongs don't make a right so I try to just ignore what they say, but it is getting harder to do.

Sorry for the long rant but I am tired of hearing these folks complain.
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Are these other folks neighbors, relatives, friends, coworkers or acquaintances?
I don't know what breeds of poultry you have but I know a lot of old time poultry farmers that sing the praises of bantams because the feed to egg production ratio is better than large fowl. I haven't had bantams though.

I'd say if you don't like what they say to you, ignore them. If your animals aren't running on their property, it's none of their business.
 
You know, I really like to be friendly. I like that.

But I can also be very blunt.

Such as, "What I do on my is your business how?"


I really think that people don't realize how rude they
are. And that even goes for me at times.

If I find that I've got to talk about someone, let it be
words of kindness. Let me say something nice. Postive
words.

If I find the need to say a negative word, the person I need
to say it to is the person involved. No one else. Even then
before I speak, I need to ask myself if I'm right.


Spook...who respects his friends rights.
 
Arguing with these people is an exercise in futility. Don't waste your breath. Just thank them for their opinion and change the subject. If it were me, I might ask them just why they thought my animals and what I did with them was any of their business. But that's me. The best tack might just to ignore what they said, not respond to it, and pretend you didn't hear it. Some people make nasty remarks just to get a rise out of you. If you don't react, it takes all the fun out of it.
 
I'll agree with that. Don't argue. Never argue.

When the need be, just be bluntly honest. Most people
get the message. They're rude, not stupid.

Now if they simply don't get it ... yes, change the subject.


Spook
 
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Agree with the above. If you are defensive they will only press more. Who are these people and do you really care what they think? If you are happy then you are happy. You do not have to justify it. I have 4 dogs and 6 chickens and for a while had a cat. This is not a lot of animals for someone who lives in the suburbs or country but I live in a very urban area and for the people around me it is A LOT of animals. I have people say that a lot when it comes up. Wow. That is a lot of animals. Or something to the effect of it being strange.

I generally just laugh and agree. Yes. It is a lot of animals and it is a bit strange but I love it. It you stay light and positive and agree-able I find that other people tend to be light and positive and agree-able. You have to set the tone. If they continue then choose not to engage. End the conversation simply with. We keep animals for a lot of different reasons and are really happy with our set up right now. End. Ask them about their life.

It is very hard to argue with confidence and happiness. If you are confident with your choices and move on, my experience is that generally so will they. It the best way to make it clear that you really don't care what they think while still having a smile.
 
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I just can't imagine caring so much about what someone else is doing, if it's not directly affecting me...I'll forever be baffled by these "types" of people. Maybe they need a hobby? ;)

Do these things make you happy? Smile and nod and keep letting them make you happy :)
 
Woah, nosey people. If very pushy or a known meddler, I'd go with Spook's, "and this is your business....how?" For most, I'd crack some jokes.

If comments have any ill intent behind them, it is amazing how quickly not giving a....second thought....to them snuffs that out. :)
 
Everyone has opinions. Some people express them and others do not. Let it ride. Treasure the joy and fulfillment that your critters bring to you and your family. That's of primary importance!
(and on a personal note, I have a dear of a mother whom I love...but she does not get my fascination with gardening and chickens - or me, for that matter.
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-am a rather free-spirited, independent hippie of sorts smack in the middle of suburbia. She once remarked that, "women are no longer in bondage nor slavery to growing and raising food. Supermarkets liberated women from all of that stuff." I just grinned, donned the dirty garden clogs (which coordinated so well with the Lilly Pulitzer frock), and sauntered on out to the coop and garden patch to feed the hens and harvest the squash. She just shook her head....

p.s. You seem to have a very lovely lifestyle - family and lots of furry friends. That's greatness! Exude confidence and EnJoY!
 

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