Divorce.....Yikes!

[Petej]

In case anyone has been wondering where I ran off too, I'm getting divorced from the not so DW. After many, many months of continued mutual disagreements, I decided to cut the ties that bind.

I've moved and in the future will raise more Backyard Chickens!

 

[danielle82]

so sorry for what your going through.

 

[StevenW.]

So sorry

At least you can get more chickens!!

or maybe some ducks....... or geese....... or pheasants.............. or peafowl............. or maybe even an Emu?!?

 

[Petej]

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Thank you. Everything is working out for the better of both of us and the kids. We have shared custody, so they still have their parents in their lives.

I'm much happier no than I have been in the last few years.

A friend that I lost ten years ago (We became friends then, but were spoken for at the time) popped out of the woodwork and she and I are talking.

This time we're both single.

I really am hoping for the best in my new relationship. She truly is an amazing person.

 

[GiddyMoon]

I won't say sorry because sometimes divorce is the best thing that can happen to ALL involved..it isn't the divorce that messes people up..it's how everyone acts while going thru it and there after..CONGRATS TO YOUR NEW HAPPINESS!

 

[Petej]

Thank you.
It is truly all the little BS that people pull during and after. The divorce itself is simple......

 

[GiddyMoon]

Pete, I am a firm believer in our one and only creator. and He says he judges by the heart...so to me there are probably a lot of "marriages" out there ..that aren't really marriages...so many times people are with the wrong person, period..and I am sorry, I don't believe this baloney our society and churches teach..marriage is so hard..that is normal, blah blah..no, when you are with the RIGHT person, specially made just for you...marriage is heaven.


I was married for ten years to a man in my church, same beliefs, etc and he was the most abusive man I ever knew..when I finally stopped praying and asking God to "fix"..whatever needed to be "fixed" since I knew God didn't like divorce..and started asking God to do WHATEVER He wanted to do..God removed that man from my home within days and God brought in an "unbeliever" who is the most wonderful righteous, honest, loving man I have ever met. We have now been together over 10 years..I have 4 kids from my first marriage and none of them carry divorce baggage.

You may not be a believer..but I thought I would share this anyway...it changed my whole perspective on marriage and divorce..THIS TIME..both our hearts are firmly planted in this relationship and God knew what we both needed..

Again, congrats to you..I wish you much happiness!

 

[Petej]

Terra (My girlfriend) and I met ten years ago when we were both involved in our own relationships. We both graduated from Job Corps (where we met) and went our separate ways. I knew deep down, as did she, in our hearts that we belonged together. However we were as I said spoken for and remained simply as friends.

I lost contact shortly after graduation and had always wondered where she went. Well, last year she found me on Facebook and we started talking like no time had even passed. She got married to a man that couldn't keep it in his pants..... She left him for another man, who turned out to be absolutely horrible. Be beat her, used her, in general was horribly abusive.

My wife turned abusive on me. Mentally, and physically. I left her a few months ago and have been getting back on my feet. Terra and I have been talking and decided that now would be a good time to give us a second chance. She's single now as am I. We both share a common bond and feel that things have happened the way they have for a reason and now is the time when we should be together.

I'm not an uber believer, but I do believe that there is a higher power.

I'm moving in with Terra here in a few days after my layover so I can see my family which I haven't seen in years......

 

[EweSheep]

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I do agree with you about society and church says you must do to preserve your marriage, no matter how abusive the spouse would be. I do not know where they get that idea!

We do not believe in any church but marriage is hard work and it takes two to work AT it. If one does not want to work at it or even to improve it, then it is no need to continue any further in staying married.

Divorce may the end but happiness will follow later. It is one of those "life" lessons we all have to face one time or another like death, divorce, sudden abandonment or some unforseenable occurance.

Take it one day at a time Petej, don't rush into another relationship too soon. Just follow the dating scene!

 

[mississippifarmboy]

Sorry to hear about your divorce. I know it's never easy. Been there, done that, got the T-shirt. We all have to do what we have to do.

But watch out for women named Terra....

I've been married to one going on 16 years..... Happiest years of my life I might add.