In general, I love lists.
For gift-giving, though, I'm with derby -- I *loathe* the whole concept. It's like a list of demands to be filled.
I am firmly of the (not popular these days!) persuasion that if you care enough about a person to give them a gift, you care and know enough about them to make a good stab at something that they will like, be it useful, entertaining, beautiful, whatever. (There are indeed a few people on the planet who are not interested in anything they themselves did not think up, and I'm willing to make at least a theoretical exception for that)
To me, the gift is at least as much in the thought that went behind choosing it as in the object itself.
And I really, really hate seeing kids indoctrinated in this "letter to santa listing presents I want" stuff. Good for stores that sell stuff; not good for character, if you ask me.
Mind there are some people I have a heck of a time getting presents for, my father especially (he is openly critical of most things you give him, and the rest he just ignores and apparently forgets three minutes later that it's ever happened) but you know what, that's life
For myself, you know what, if I really wanted it that bad I would go out and buy the darn thing myself. Saying 'oh, I would like an X for christmas' and then finding the X duly delivered on christmas morning is SOOOOOO not a present, to me. It's me getting it myself, via (what I'd consider the rudeness of) money from someone else's pocket
(e.t.a. - when my family asks what to get the kids for christmas or birthdays, I say 'clothes' because they're always useful
, and 'I have no idea, just nothing with a jillion tiny pieces' when they press me beyond that. I think it is probably ok that kids get a certain quota of 'stupid' presents, to discover that the transaction aspect of it is not always as great as it's cracked up to be <g>)
In TOTAL solidarity with ya, derby
,
Pat
For gift-giving, though, I'm with derby -- I *loathe* the whole concept. It's like a list of demands to be filled.
I am firmly of the (not popular these days!) persuasion that if you care enough about a person to give them a gift, you care and know enough about them to make a good stab at something that they will like, be it useful, entertaining, beautiful, whatever. (There are indeed a few people on the planet who are not interested in anything they themselves did not think up, and I'm willing to make at least a theoretical exception for that)
To me, the gift is at least as much in the thought that went behind choosing it as in the object itself.
And I really, really hate seeing kids indoctrinated in this "letter to santa listing presents I want" stuff. Good for stores that sell stuff; not good for character, if you ask me.
Mind there are some people I have a heck of a time getting presents for, my father especially (he is openly critical of most things you give him, and the rest he just ignores and apparently forgets three minutes later that it's ever happened) but you know what, that's life
For myself, you know what, if I really wanted it that bad I would go out and buy the darn thing myself. Saying 'oh, I would like an X for christmas' and then finding the X duly delivered on christmas morning is SOOOOOO not a present, to me. It's me getting it myself, via (what I'd consider the rudeness of) money from someone else's pocket
(e.t.a. - when my family asks what to get the kids for christmas or birthdays, I say 'clothes' because they're always useful
In TOTAL solidarity with ya, derby
Pat
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