Do you know people who are ALWAYS sick?

[fowltemptress]

People have different levels of pain tolerance. The ones with a higher tolerance usually aren't as understanding about something hurting so much the only thing to do is talk about it.

I can handle pain as long as it's nowhere near my stomach, but if I have stomach pain the only thing that helps is moaning that I'm going to die and acting like it's the end of the world. My stomach hurts every time I'm in a car, and my SO, after years of telling me it can't hurt that much and to be quiet, has finally learned it's my coping mechanism and joins in by offering to shop for a coffin and asking me what kind of flowers I'd like at a funeral. The rest of my family learned to ignore it long ago, I think it's like static to them. The one thing I hate most is attention, so this suits me fine.

 

[hennypenny9]

I know what you mean! I know someone who is always sick with lupus and she only told me about it once I got to know her better. I think I asked her why her fingers were purple and she had to explain that she has raynaud's.

I very rarely get sick, and have to constantly remind myself that not all are as lucky. I tend to think they're hung over or lazy. BUT these are college age people who probably did stay up all night drinking, not serious employees. If the lady who has worked at the same place for 20 years calls in, yeah, she's sick. If the one who started last week calls in on a Monday morning... Well there ya go.

If I feel a bit under the weather I just sleep for like 14 hours and feel fine when I wake up. It's weird, but it works! I feel bad for those people who get stomach issues. I had a roommate who threw up once a month on "that time of the month". *shudder* I've thrown up twice in the last 13 years. So I feel icky just thinking about it.

 

[rancher hicks]

Honestly your right. Please don't ask me how I'm doing cause I'd rather just forget it. That's one good thing about not having a job. Some just don't believe you even when you have medical records to prove it. I really don't want to talk about it.
I realize Deb is right but you've got to have a sense of humor about these things. Maybe it is just for attention, so just think of things to say that will put it back on them. Like I said , "have you called the doctor?" or "lets try not to dwell on it" or just ignore them. Don't enable them, but be compassionate.

 

[Calebs Acre]

Personally, I make MYSELF sick of listening to me complaining. I find that I end up having to make excuses to people for why I don't do lots of things and it's because of health reasons.

Some of it is my own fault, lots of it is not, but I hate myself for complaining!! So, I can ONLY imagine people who have to listen to me. My asthma is under control for a few months and then it goes nuts and I cannot breathe even with tons of medication and a nebulizer. Then Epstein-Barre screws up my immune system and makes me so sleepy, I can't open my eyes....and a zillion other stupid things that I HATE......I totally understand why it can bug people!

I am NOT exaggerating but I have a friend who is always in the middle of a traumatic illness, but she never has to do the medical things I have to do and she doesn't have the physical restrictions I have...so....I don't know. She used to tell me she had a bloody nose and was afraid she'd bleed to death and you couldn't really see blood. She would say, "That's because it's running down the back of my throat and choking me." You'd look, nothing was red! LOL. She has to "compete" with me for who was the sickest and THAT is SICK!

So, I think you can really be sick, but still drive your friends crazy about it because it IS better not to talk about it all the time, if you can learn...it IS negativity and the more you can learn to concentrate on something else, the better your attitude. Now, someone teach me how to take my own advice.

 

[rancher hicks]

Dinner's ready yea,my wife is such a good cook.

She made fish. I love her fish it's really good. My wife is awesome.

 

[Chickerdoodle13]

Haha, I am a far cry from healthy as a horse. It would be nice if I was, but I've been a type 1 diabetic since I was 4 1/2. There are always up and down days for me and I try very very hard not to complain about it to others ALL the time. Sometimes I'll just have a good chat with a close friend when I'm really not feeling well, but I'm so careful about not sounding like a whiney baby (Even though I probably still do most of the time!)

I do have a high pain tolerance though. I've been thrown by horses, stepped on, kicked, bitten by just about every animal you could think of, attacked by birds, goats (LOL), and even cats. I've been very lucky in that I've never had a broken bone. I usually get bruised, I shed a couple tears, and I get back on my feet. I've always been that way. I do notice that these people who are always complaining about some strange ailment also feel the need to constantly compete with your injury in some way. For example, if I make the mistake of telling my room mate that I crushed my finger in the door, I have to listen to about 10,000 stories about times when she crushed her finger in a door. She likes to make it a "I show you my scar and you show me a worse scar" type of game. I try sooo hard not to get sucked in to her "game"!

I think I am for the most part a very compassionate person. I volunteer as an EMT, so I've seen a lot of people with real pain, and I've seen quite a few with "imaginary" pain. After awhile, it is easy to tell the difference! Its not so much a lack of compassion that causes my annoyance with my room mate, but rather the fact that I just get tired of hearing her complain. (Not to mention living with a person for half a year is enough to annoy anyone, no matter how much you love them!

) I AM noticing that I become more and more annoyed as summer gets closer...and that is purely my own mind telling me I am ready to go home! I know a lot of it is not just me though...my other two room mates feel the same way about her complaining as I do.

(And I guess I should mention that this girl is in college and she really does not take care of herself. She always eats crud, exercises at random times after eating crud all day, and then wonders why she feels terrible!)

 

[EweSheep]

I'm always sick, always got pain and a real b* and had four surgeries in the last four years! UGH! I always complain anyway!

Put me in a mental hospital where the chickens roam!

 

[preppy*hippie*chick]

My dad is kind of like that, but most annoyingly it's when I'm sick that the real fun starts. No matter what ailment anyone has, he has it or has had it and his is/was way worse. It's incredibly irritating.

 

[Linda in San Diego]

My best friend and roommate for several years is one of those that I thought of as always sick. There was always something to complain about. I remember one time when she was suffering from an ear ache - I had little sympathy, but I heated some oil (just like I had watched my mother do) laid her down on her side and poured the oil in. You would have thought I had just performed performed a miracle! She was so content and thankful. When she was sick with a head cold, I would make her tomato soup and grilled cheese, just like her mom would have done. There were many other little things I could do for her and help her to feel better. Was she really sick? Did she just need the attention? Maybe, but for a little bit of my time and effort, I made a true friend feel better.
And on the days I had migraines and was holed up in my darkened room with a trash can next to my bed because I would get so sick to my stomach...she was there, quietly checking on me and then she always had something mild for me to eat when I finally recovered.
I was not always the most sympathetic person for her, but I was there to help her if she needed it and she was there for me.

 

[Linda in San Diego]

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