DS Punched Bully

[herfrds]

Picked up DS from school today and he had a sullen look on his face.
I asked him what was wrong.
He asked if the school had called us. No.

A kid that has been giving him a pretty bad time punched him in the ribs and he in turn punched the kid in the nose.

Neither one got called into the office, but they might be on Monday.

This is the second bully DS has gotten physical with to get them to leave him alone.
Last kid tackled DS off of a bench he was sitting on and ended up getting the "nutcracker" treatment.
Bully hasn't touch DS since and has left him alone.

 

[redhen]

I'm sorry that your son has to deal with bullies...

Have you gone to the school and made a big fuss about it?

 

[WriterofWords]

That is how Steven finally got a bully in Middle school to leave him alone. I had to go to school and meet with the other parents and the deputy and finally got taken seriously!

 

[Wisher1000]

It's really hard to call this one. I have three boys (14, 12, and 10) that I have told all their lives that fighting is not the answer. I have told them to stand up for themselves with words and intelligence and to get help from grownups when needed. The only fight the two older ones ever got into in elementary school was with each other! Then one day a parent called me at work and told me that the middle one had gotten into a fight and had been kicked in the head. When I asked about it, DS said he had not been in a fight. He said that the other boy had fought him but that he didn't fight back. I was furrious. The school didn't call me, the teacher didn't call me and the other boy is a known bully with a temper problem. I had a talk with my son and told him that the boy could only do that to him once. Next time he was to ball up his fist and hit that boy in the nose as hard as he could. My son was flabbergasted! He said, "MOM, I will get in trouble!" I said, "Only at school." I think DS went to school and told some friends what I said and word got back to the bully. DS never had anymore trouble. The problem with getting into fights is that once he does, he will have to fight over and over. If he "loses," the weaker boys will want to fight him so they can win. If he "wins," the tougher ones will want to fight to prove they are tougher. It is a no-win situation. I chose to take the position that there are better ways to deal with people, even mean ones.

 

[Nicola]

A Similar insidence is going around the news here in australia, because a Sydney boy fianlly stood up for himself agaisnt bullies, He picked this kid up and threw him to the ground. Im sure if you search it in google news stories will come up about it

 

[herfrds]

Redhen I have talked til I was blue in the face with the former superindent. He never did anything.
Our new one I talked to just recently agreed that if one of the kids bullying my son touched him, he had every right to defend himself.
He thought the "nutcracker" incident was funny. Said the kid deserved it for tackling my son.

wisher1000 my DS has been bullied for years. It is just recently he has started standing up for himself.
We tried the tell the teacher, avoid the other kid, tell the principal, talk to the parents, nothing changed. Nobody did anything.
Except me. I have attended 3 different self defense classes and have taught some of it to my DS.
Normally he just ignores the kids, but laying their hands on him is not acceptable.
A few years ago he had one kid sucker punch him in the stomach. He knocked the kid down and sat on him. Told him to leave him alone. DS got in trouble with the former super because the other kid was smaller. I got the truth by calling the other kids in his class. Super did nothing to punish the kid for punching my son first.

Nicola I saw that video too. So did DS.

 

[Boyd]

My thoughts on bullies and my kids....................

I do not condone violence...........

But..............

I always tell my kids to make sure it is worth the grounding they are going to get.

My daughter came home crying 3-5 days a week because of another girl.. Your just a stupid foster kid, your parents didn't want you, cheap/whore/ho/etc.. that was just the verbal.... and daughter finally had enough and gave her one good shot to the head...

Both girls were suspended for 3 days......

Daughter was completely grounded for 1 week with no privileges and lots of manual labor.. It was worth it for her..

She's now in boxing and body building

She can bench more than me

 

[WriterofWords]

I always told Steven not to fight, especially since I am a teacher in the same district. He would walk away, pick up his belongings after they were taken away from him, or worse destroyed,, finally they took his backpack away once after he took some pictures to school for a history class. They were taken during WWII by my grandfather, they were destroyed by these jerks because they figured they would get away with it because he never fought back. When I found out what happened during lunch when he called me, I told him if they so much as look at you sideways clean their clocks and I will be there after school to handle the cleanup. I called the principal, told the witch what happened and she said boys are boys, I'm sorry, what do you want me to do. I told her I'd be there after school to deal with the destruction of property that couldn't be replaced. Then I called our main office and told them what was going to happen after school so they would have a heads up, I told my own principal what was going to happen and she offered to go with me for backup because she's known my son for years.

Before I could there, right after his next to the last class, this same group started tormenting him and laughing about what they did. He turned like he was going to walk away, one of them grabbed his backpack and he turned around and started swinging. He beat the living crap out of that one and started on one who tried to interfere before anyone even tried to break it up. I was called, I left for the middle school right away and got there right after the deputy and other parents got there. They thought I wouldn't make a scene because I work for the district,, By the time I was done those parents knew exactly what kind of useless trash they had raised, the hell they had put my son through and the value of the property their trashy offspring had destroyed. I let them know I would welcome a court appearance because I wanted everyone to know what went on at that middle school and what that administration allowed to happen. We settled it,, they weren't happy,, but we settled it.

Never allow your children to be abused, anywhere. No, they won't have to keep fighting in most instances, because most of the time it's an isolated group doing the bullying and the rest of the kids need to see that group taken down. Don't be afraid to call a deputy and have them meet you at the school. HANDLE IT!!!!!!

 

[Cindiloohoo]

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TOTALLY agree. I have never told my kids not to fight. I have always told them avoid it if possible, but if not possible, do what you have to do. You'll only have consequences from me if you are the one in the wrong and that if they were in the wrong I hope they got the mess beat out of them by the other kid. NO WAY I'd let someone just wail on my kid and tell them to take it...EVER.

 

[spiritdance]

As an educator, I can tell you I am disgusted by the way some educational "professionals" foster a "culture of bullying" with their "kids will be kids" attitudes. To an extent, we can let our children work out some of their problems. But when bullying reaches the level that it impacts any child's ability to feel safe, comfortable, and valued in school, it's time for adults to intervene. Kids will be the kids we teach them to be, and unfortunately not all parents teach their kids to respect others. In those instances, the educators need to step in. The super that refused to do anything was not only negligent, but a disgrace to his professional field.