Ever just feel lonely?

[Rammy]

Im sure alot of my emotional mood swings are due to my entering the first phases of menapause, but sometimes I sit here reading these posts and just get lonely. Nobody to come home to other than the animals. All I do is work, come home. Work, come home. Nobody to help me around the house or talk to. I got divorced back in 98 and I know I have trust issues, but sometimes you want someone around. In all true fairness, I do tend to be a loner, but seems as I get older, you think more and more about who is going to take care of you in your twilight years.
I think, am I going to be able to live alone, or will I end up in a nursing home? Will I have enough money to live on? Whats going to happen if I get hospitalized?

I am probably just depressed. Tomorrow, I'll be, "Oh, screw it, Life is good."
And, no, I dont need to see a doctor. All they do is want your money and put you on happy pills.

Maybe Im just tired, too.

Rammy

 

[debilorrah]

Honey we all have our moments. I had one this morning. Even though I do have a family, a spouse, good friends, sometimes it IS just lonely. Especially if you are entering menopause. A woman's hormones go NUTS. I am right there with ya. I screamed at Ken this morning for the first time in 3 years. Ugh.

 

[geepy]

Aww, if your here your never alone. : )

 

[redhen]

 

[b.hromada]

Yes, its not uncommon to feel lonely from time to time. Heck, I've got a huge family, and I feel LONELY sometimes!! With the hubby working, some of the kids working, the house to run, etc., it seems that all you do is run. But, I can imagine, that being alone is a lot harder for you. Its a good thing that you've got the animals, as they do make your life feel happier! Also, you could be right on with the menopause thing too, as it does wreck havoc on your emotions! Just hang in there, things do get better, as you've already said. Talking about helps too. We're here for you, just know that.

 

[Rammy]

Thanks. I yell at my animals and they dont care. They just wag thier tails. Seems I have days where I just want to cry and in fact am right now, and then ten minutes later Im laughing at a commercial on tv. Hot flashes are SO fun.
Nobody comes to my house or calls except my parents. I do have a neighbor who's kid comes over to use my signal to download songs on her Ipod.
Like I tell my parents, I dont mind being alone, its being lonely I dont like. I'll be ok. Just my hormones screwing with me.

Rammy

 

[b.hromada]

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[ARose4Heaven]

Rammy, I know your feelings.

I lost a husband of 21 years, at 40, in 1999. I honestly thought I would just live alone after the pain he had caused me when he was alive. I was lonely, emotionally damaged, and did not do well alone. I had two headstrong teenage boys to raise, and just wasn't cut out to deal with it.

I put an ad on AOL Love, I did have to kiss a few frogs to find my prince, but he did come. I now say that my life began at 40. If you REALLY want to have a companion, sometimes you have to put yourself out-there. It was scary trying to meet someone online, and I took some terrible risks, but for me, it worked out.

If you are a church goer, that is the best place to start.

If not...try an online dating service. I recommend E-harmony.com or mingles.com The site I used no longer exists as far as I know. Just be careful, and be particular. It is far too easy to sell yourself short. Don't sugar-coat who you are, and if you post a picture of yourself, use one from your everyday life, not a glamour shot. Those glamour shot photos draw weirdos. Use a pic of you and your chicken..that will catch the eye of the right kind of guy.

Stay away from chat rooms! Those are havens for perverts.

If you think you've found a good prospect...take a friend with you, and meet him at a restaurant, so you can run if you want.

And stay here on BYC! Great people and good friends.

 

[kelseygirl707]

I have been feeling that way lately even though I have a husband around in the evenings and I take care of his grandmother all day, but she is more like a child, don't get stimulating conversation from her. My lonelyness is probably just pregnancy hormones, and I get over it, but I have noticed it a lot more lately, especially towards the end of the week when I can no longer take granny conversation! LOL.

 

[Beekissed]

Yep. Empty nest syndrome here and also living in a world where nearly everyone is the same. It seems you meet the same person over and over but with different faces. I feel your loneliness, Rammy!

I think everyone just wants a witness to their life. It doesn't have to be of the opposite sex, it just needs to be someone who wants to know you and appreciates what they get to know.